You want to see people doing acts of kindness and getting organized. You also would like for the GB to "listen to reason." I thought Jehovah's Witnesses were all they claimed to be for over thirty years. It was devastating to find out that they, indeed, are more about outward show than real love. Unfortunatelly, I think the utopian dream of an organization you'd like to see will never happen in an imperfect world.
I've never seen war first hand as you have, and I realize that it was hard to live through. My dad was a Marine and fought in WWII and Korea. He lived to be 85, and I should have told him how proud I was of him, but was, unfortunately, a JW, so didn't. I am closing in on sixty now, have left the witnesses. I've been forced to take a hard look at myself, and people on the planet we share.
I have seen kind acts. There is a woman at work who took me to her group of ladies, through a church, that gets together to discuss things they can do for each other, and those less fortunate. They sponser an orphanage in South America, and missions in other areas. They have clothes drives for homeless, etc. They don't blow a trumpet to advertise. There are many other groups that do good for others. I didn't realize it when I was a JW. There are good people out there, in quiet groups, showing love...perhaps organizing drives to get glasses to those who need them, doctors who fix cleft palates in children of third world countries, etc.
Perhaps you could start by being the kind of Christian yourself that you'd like others to be. The kind that doesn't scare children. The quiet kind that works hard, and looks for good in others, not expecting perfection.
When my children ask me when Im going to do certain things I answer, "when its time". At first they dont like that. But I explain that in order for me to make my desition I am waiting for things to happen first. So its driven by my waiting for things to be right for me to act.
Take the time to calm down, breathe, and realize that you can't always wait for or expect "things to be right" but you can be a real dad now, the kind your kids are proud of, and know it will please God and Jesus. Maybe you can find a group and do volunteer work. Make a difference. I know I try to do the same.
I wish the best for you.