How could we all get along better together???

by Celtic 46 Replies latest jw friends

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  Tatiana

  Oh no, yrs2long, I was not offended in any way by our discussion. That was an exchange of ideas and opinions. In fact, I learned a lot reading your posts. Please don't think that.

  I'm never offended by people exchanging knowledge. Whether I agree or disagree.

  GDW, there's a difference in being "outspoken" and just plain mean. I can deal with anyone's ideas and opinions, no matter how different they are from mine....it's the meanness that hurts.

  April
  "Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)
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  larc

  Tatiana,

  Of all the words that have been said, I think you said it the best, when you said, "it's the meanness that hurts."
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  Englishman

  How could we all get along better together???

  Easy. Be less sensitive to criticism. Stand on your own 2 feet. Don't whine or whinge on this board, do it via email. When your done give your opponent a big hug.

  Life, unlike the great hope that JW's have, will never be all sugar and syrup. We need to enjoy salt and pepper, the spicy things. Who wants to be luvvy-duvvey all the time? Boring! Have a ding-dong with someone and enjoy it for Christ's sake!

  Oh yeah... sneaky and schnide doing downs in the chatroom is verboten in my book.

  Englishman.

  Bring on the dancing girls!
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  cat1759

  Tatiana,Xena,
  Great posts. Others who I can't remember said awesome things also. Love is the biggest lesson to learn in life. So we may not have learned it to good as a JWs, but we are learning it in our lives with all those we meet and our families and of course here. Were we are tolerated for having a different opinion.
  Celtic,
  You rock! Showing love and allowing ourselves to be loved is about the hardest thing as ex jws we will ever do. Alot of us saw so much hypocrisy and everyday dislikes and gossip at the hall that we are skeptical of what others say due to our own upbringing. Letting it all go is so hard for all of us. Remember the post about stress...who needs it? We gave them those years out of blind faith, our lives are our choice now. Learning about love is hard. It is even harder to allow ourselves to be loved for who we are as we were always found short as a Jws.
  Everything that needs to be said was already said. Have a great day everyone, know god still loves us no matter what road we take.
  cathy
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  Skeptic

  Tatiana,

  Wow! You are an inspiration to me. You are right, this place should be for healing, comforting one another.

  Richard
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  GoldDustWoman

  I agree with you Tatiana that there is a difference between outspoken and plain mean. Like I said, ideas, no matter how strongly one holds their views, and the delivery of such views, it is quite different from taking exception with the personality of the poster themselves.

  That is the thing that long drawn out, pointless, flame wars are made of.

  GDW
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  Tatiana

  I think this sums it up......

  Do I stress you out
  My sweater is on backwards and inside out
  And you say how appropriate
  I don't want to dissect everything today
  I don't mean to pick you apart you see
  But I can't help it
  There I go jumping before the gunshot has gone off
  Slap me with a splintered ruler
  And it would knock me to the floor if I wasn't there already

  If only I could hunt the hunter
  And all I really want is some patience
  a way to calm the angry voice
  And all I really want is deliverance

  Do I wear you out
  You must wonder why I'm relentless and all strung out
  I'm consumed by the chill of solitary
  I'm like Estella
  I like to reel it in and then spit it out
  I'm frustrated by your apathy
  And I am frightened by the corrupted ways of this land
  If only I could meet the maker
  And I am fascinated by the spiritual man

  I am humbled by his humble nature
  What I wouldn't give to find a soulmate
  Someone else to catch this drift
  And what I wouldn't give to meet a kindred

  Enough about me, let's talk about you for a minute
  Enough about you, let's talk about life for a while
  The conflicts, the craziness and the sound of pretenses

  Falling all around.... all around
  Why are you so petrified of silence
  Here can you handle this?
  Did you think about your bills, your ex, your deadlines
  Or when you think you're going to die
  Or did you long for the next distraction
  
  And all I need now is the intellectual intercourse
  A soul to dig the hole much deeper
  And I have no concept of time other than it is flying
  If only I could kill the killer

  All I really want is some peace man
  A place to find a common ground
  And all I really want is a wavelength
  All I really want is some comfort
  A way to get my hands untied
  And all I really want is some justice.....

  April
  "Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)