Alright, so let me make sure I have this correctly..................... I'm just going to copy and paste bits and pieces of your posts. You're concise enough that I don't think I have to fear taking anything you posted out of context. So lets see................
A person that does whatever they desire is showing that they have NOT been saved. That is what my point was by saying that holiness is not something that we pursue so that we can be saved. It is a manifestation of our salvation. Good works are manifest because we have been justified by faith ONLY.
A person that USES the gift of grace to justify wrongdoings has not really been saved. The bible speaks of the "evidence of grace". (Acts 11:23) Read Acts 15:11. It is ONLY by grace that we are saved. The Bible constantly talks about grace being a GIFT. Can you earn a gift? If you go to work, is your paycheck a gift? No, it's something that was paid to you due to your work.
But grace is not like that. It's something that is freely given to us. Read Romans 5:20. It says that "where sin increased, grace increased all the more." This does not give us license to sin. It does, in fact, have the opposite effect. It causes us to want to avoid sin.
Applied grace means that our salvation IS sure NOW. What working outyour salvation REALLY means is showing that you have been saved by your works through faith.
Here's the part where you confuse me, in stating that Grace doesn't give us a license to sin. When I hear the word license, I think legally permissable. A license to carry a firearm, or to drive. To practice law or medicine. So you're telling me that grace doesn't license me to do whatever it is that I want, but it causes me to "want to avoid sin." There's a difference between be licensed to carry a firearm, and not being licensed but none the less packing heat under my shirt to avoid detection and risk arrest.
You're saying Grace means my salvation is sure. Positive. Done deal. Signed, sealed, delivered, Grace is yours. At the same time you're saying, I'll want to avoid sin to show people that I am saved. Ok I get it. But does that still mean, since I'm saved because of Grace, if I slip up and do something heinous even though I really wanted to avoid doing something heinous, I'm still saved by Grace. I mean I really didn't want to do something heinous, ya know I really wanted to avoid it as you put it. But, I messed up and did it anyway, am I still saved?