So yesterday my MIL did the token believing df'd person thing and told my wife that if she had not been df'd she would not have corrected her course of action. It was a devistating blow to everything that I've been working on with my wife. Her mom said if she had not been df'd she would have spread lies about my wife's dad and would have still wanted to be with her ex-boyfriend. She said that being df'd gave her time to think about her actions and see how wrong they were.
I had nothing I could say. I just shook my head and agreed with my wife. I was shocked. This is the same person who 2 weeks ago told me that she was having major problems with the organization and hated the lack of love that was being shown to her.
The best I could say was, "Well if it took these men imposing these rules on her, and THAT is what got her to change, then what does that say about her faith? Is it genuine?"
My wife came back with, "That is why there must be consequences in society. If there were no consequences, you would do anything." I told her that I would not. My faith is based on love for God and not fear of consequences.
I felt like I was at an impass. My arguments weren't good enough.
Has anyone else heard a df'd person call their df'ing a blessing and speak positively about it? Does anyone agree with this view?