Disfellowshiping is a blessing! (page 2)

SweetBabyCheezits

I'm just saying that DF'ing is emotional blackmail.

Dark Side

It was a blessing for me

I struggled for years, trying to fit in. I couldn't, and couldn't understand why I couldn't. I married and had four kids, doing what I thought was right

My last disfellowshipping was my wake-up call. I left and never looked back.

Without DFing, I might be still stuck to this day.

Disfellowship everyone for any reason. Whatever gets you out. You fucking go, WTBTS!

undercover

If she wasn't df'd she would still probably be with that guy and bad mouthing her innocent husband.

It's also possible that after being DFd that she could have kept on lying and cheating.

DFing does not cure a person of their badness. It's the stigma of being ostracized and shunned that frigten people to "straigten up and fly right".

Even then, that's not a true cure. That's fear and guilt being used to get a person to adhere to whatever moral code is being enforced. In this particular case, the moral code is one you...and most other people, agree with. But that's not the issue. The issue is: Is DFing really a blessing.

Seperate the two issues before trying to find the answer.

Dark Side

I'm just saying that DF'ing is emotional blackmail.

You don't say?

SweetBabyCheezits

SBC: Who ever said blackmail doesn't work?

BD: She's got more to blackmail me with than I do with her!

SBC: I'm just saying that DF'ing is emotional blackmail.

DS: You don't say?

DS, I realize that's understood around here. BD's reply seemed to be out of context with what I had in mind so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't talking about some OTHER kind of blackmail.

brotherdan

It's true. DF'ing is totally blackmail. Actually just the THREAT of DF'ing is blackmail.

Ding

Your MIL's attitude is quite unstable, which means she's probably undergoing tremendous stress inside.

Many of us have also undergone tremendous mood and attitude swings -- altenately cursing the WTS and then begging forgiveness.

If she goes back to the Hall but is looked down upon, she may go right back to being angry about the lack of love in the Society.

It's probably best to keep your mouth shut about it for awhile.

Pray silently for her.

Let God work on her, and be ready to help her pick up the pieces when everything in her world falls apart again.

Your wife will see how much you really love her mother.

SweetBabyCheezits

just the THREAT of DF'ing is blackmail.

Yeah, BD, that's spot on. The two elders that dropped by the house (before our JC hearing) gave us the following choices (no exaggeration!):

Start studying again and return to meetings
Write a letter of disassociation
Meet for JC hearing on charges of apostasy

Ultimately, the choice was return to the fold or say goodbye to your family.

Dark Side

DS, I realize that's understood around here. BD's reply seemed to be out of context with what I had in mind so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't talking about some OTHER kind of blackmail.

I don't much read context or who said what or what was meant. I take posters at their word

If you know the truth about Jehovah's Witnesses, and remain in, you are a coward and a liar. No matter the circumstances

If you don't know the truth yet, educate yourself

leavingwt

"People deserve what they tolerate."

I saw a sign with those words, hanging in the cubicle of a co-worker. Life is rarely this black-and-white, but there is a grain of truth in there.

Disfellowshiping is a blessing!

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