Of course, one of the big problems is that we're coming from a religion that tells us what to believe, what to think, what to wear, and what not to believe, think, or wear, etc. EVERYTHING in a JW life is painted in black and white. Some places, people, congregations are creative with some shades in between, but the direction from "mother" is to follow orders... AND JUDGE AND PRESSURE ANYONE THAT EVER WOULD DARE TO STRAY from those JW rules.
So, the mental groundwork for rule-setting and judging-others is set for us, but those rules change as we start to question "mother". I think a lot of the people that come here simply have changed the old Watchtower corporation rules for a personally crafted set of rules painted in blank-and-white that everyone else should live by and that they use to judge others by. So often posts have a "you should do as I say" authoritative ring, because that's what we always heard as dubs.
But we all know clearly that anyone that comes here "reniaa-style" is being disobedient to "mother", even if they claim to be pro-JW, they know that there is only one approved "channel" on the interwebs that they're allowed to visit religiously. Yeah, some nutjobs show up here. As for me, sometimes I'll engage them, but usually ignore them as much as possible. The primary thing I learn is to NOT be anything LIKE them... as self-righteous jerk-offs.
I've been helped here, and I try to help others here. I realize that some of the things I might suggest simply won't work as suggested for others, but I understand that I have a very limited view. And certainly, as far as anyone that's "in" and still has family and friends "in". I'm really not interested in telling them exactly what they have to do. I don't need the burden of forcing someone to take my advice that turns out disasterous. It's not my intention to go door-to-door expecting that people must take my word for everything or god will kill them... soon. If somebody here is an elder, pioneer, bethelite, whatever, it's a tough exit that they are looking at. I'm not going to expect them to rush out the door before they are prepared for what's on the other side. It's their life. It's their choice. I'm not going to play their judge like some kind of an ex-JW-elder.
And everyone better agree with me or Jehovah's gonna get you!