I always hated sticking my nose in other people's business and generally didn't. It's amazing though how many people desperately want you to get involved in things you don't need to know, don't want to know and wish you'd never heard of. It's particularly difficult when husbands and wives are at odds. I made it a practice to never listen to one without the other's involvement.
Judicially I usually found it possible to only get by with very basic information. Actually, the instuctions from the organization are that you don't go into unnecessary detail but many brothers have different definitions of what's necessary.
In my experience it's a relatively small percentage of elders that really get off on getting into people's lives. But, the turmoil it causes makes it seem like there are a lot more of them.