Yes, I do for some, like my mom.
My sister was df'd 35 years ago.
My dad sounds like yours. I don't feel bad for him. He just wrote my sister off as a casulty. In Israel he would probably have cast the first stone.
But my mother's miind was trapped. She felt she had to be true to her God but she also wanted to be true to her kid. She also wanted her kid to come back to God (the cult). She became a broken shell, eaten by WT guilt and personal guilt. She perhaps had mental health issues before, but over the years has become more and more mentally ill.
I'm certain the WT policy contributed to her mental illness. She lost all her interest in life. She now sits in a home for the elderly and tells everyone she is df'd, which she is not. I believe today she would accept to see my sister but it is just too late.
My dad and the JW relatives, as well as JW friends blame my sister for my mother's situation, saying my sister's df'ing brought on the sickness. They don't get it that the WT shunning policy has at the very least, made my mom's sickness a lot worse. Perhaps if it wasn't for the shunning she may not have become sick.
I recently watched a program about the Mao years in China. One of the interviewed spoke for the millions who obeyed Mao blindly and who is today shocked that it could have happened. He said it well: "We no longer thought, but just obeyed"
