Tammy-
One the the major problems in the Gospels is the single side of settings. We know very little about what real Jewish life was like if we only base our view of Jewish life on the Gospel's accounts, but even as much as the compilers edited things for a naive Gentile world some glimpses come through and then we need the aid of other Jewish sources to see what holds water. Remember Jesus going with his Mom and Dad to the Temple when he was little, Jewish people traveled in families. Men, women, and kids were there watching him do a 5:00 o'clock melt down whirling his freshly made whip. Think he missed everybody. No.
Where is the scholar or teacher, the spiritual leader reasoning with people on how things could be done better.