Funny how your tastes in the opposite sex change, and how easy it is to forget the past.

by miseryloveselders 26 Replies latest jw friends

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  Broken Promises

  A funny thing happened at the meeting today, but I’ll give you some background info…

  A few years ago, a brother from another cong showed some interest in me. He called me, visited my cong occasionally, hang out with mutual friends… and he was Fine. Tall, athletic body, medium-brown skin…. Definitely my kind of brother

  Anyway…..

  Today we had a visiting brother give the Talk. It was HIM. I tried to act cool. Thankfully I had my baby to distract me. My husband looked sideways momentarily when I took a quick breath when He looked at me briefly during the talk. I couldn’t help it. He was still the same, but even better. He had a look about him that was different – a kind of self-confidence that I hadn’t noticed before.

  But, it’s too late. I’ve made my bed (literally) now. I have a baby, and my husband is good to me. If I left my husband, I’d lose my family, my friends, the love of my husband… all for a short-term romance several years ago.

  So, Bro Fine (you know who you are), I’m sorry that things didn’t work out, but I’m happy with my husband and my baby. You have so much ahead of you – I know whatever you do, it’ll work out for you. I am in your past now, so look ahead to your future.

  Signed, Sister Root Beer Flavored Jolly Ranchers.
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  jws

  I remember some of the Witness girls I had crushes on and/or dated. I'm not sure what you're saying about attraction. If they're still cute, there's still a part of me (not saying which one) that would still be interested in them... But the chances for that are almost impossible, so why dwell?

  When I was a JW, I would think of marriage someday to one of these girls. Now there's not a lot of commonality. I'm so glad I didn't end up married to a JW girl. If I saw any of them today, I might admire their beauty, have a few nasty thoughts, but that's where the interest would end.

  A lot also has to do with how a woman is presenting herself. If she was single, there was probably differences in the way she dressed and acted that caused you to have an attraction. Those things are probably gone now that this woman is married. A little more conservative in dress and behavior?
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  Finally-Free

  Regarding how tastes change, I agree. I used to lust after petite blondes. Now I don't give them a second look. I prefer red or black hair now.

  I don't even think of most of my former "crushes" any more, but I'll admit to having a soft spot for a handfull who were exceptional in the sack.

  W
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  undercover

  BTW, you aint over her quite yet, my brother.

  I agree, methinks thou doth protesteth too mucheth...

  Which is okay... there was a girl I was smitten with in my younger days. I was head over heels but didn't couldn't win her heart. Too many other suitors with money and position and looks. She married and eventually I married. We actually became friends but lost contact over the years, especially as I faded and became inactive. But every now and then she re-visits...in my dreams. Seriously, I dream about her about twice a year. It's nuts. I saw her post on Facebook a few weeks ago. The years have been kind to her. Still as beautiful as when we were young.
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  sabastious
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  PSacramento

  When it comes to relationships, I rarely look back at the past.

  Things went they way they went because they couldn't have gone any other way.

  Had some nice times and bad times, some fun times and hurtful times, I have hurt and been hurt.

  I hope that all the ladies I had feelings for are happy and content, I hope the ones I hurt got over it and I hope the ones that hurt me are happy and found their true love.

  We are the sum of our relationships, what we DO WITH THAT SUM is up to US.

  Regrets? Oh yeah, for sure but only because I wish that I can have learned what I learnt without hurting or being hurt.

  Could I have been with anyone that I had a crush on 20 years ago today?

  God no !!!

  LOL !

  Not the same person now that I was then and if I was, I'd be really worried about that !
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  mamalove

  I can't say my taste has changed. There was one that I cannot forget. But it sure feels good to be able to walk into a room with someone from the past and look really happy, smiles, shining eyes and act like you are perfectly well.

  Misery, I look forward to hearing your dating stories when you decide to go there. You have a way of describing women. You are very observant, somewhat sentimental, and romantic in a way that makes you vulnerable but real.
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  JimmyPage

  If you're so jealous of a guy that you want to take his head off his shoulders then you probably shouldn't be standing in front of an audience advising them on how to live a peaceful, loving life.
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  elderelite

  Wow misery, this just got bumped to the top and i read it for the first time... Forgive me, brother, I dont know you in a "best friend" type way and dont want to take liberties..

  but you need to get laid.

  Stop trying to rationalize this shit, embrace reality, and find a sweet gal who will rock your world. You'll be happier, excessive toilet paper use and all
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  snowbird

  I looked at her from the platform, and looked down at her big beautiful eyes which were like root beer flavored jolly ranchers, and I felt nothing but indifference.

  This doesn't sound like indifference to me.

  Syl