Funny how your tastes in the opposite sex change, and how easy it is to forget the past.

by miseryloveselders 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • Juan Viejo2
    Juan Viejo2

    Garth Brook's "Unanswered Prayers" says it best...

    I've had the opportunity to run into some of the girls I either lusted after or dated while I was a JW teenager.

    One was a tiny little thing with the cutest button nose and big brown eyes. Saw her a few years later at District Assemby in San Diego. She looked like a five-foot tall Jabba the Hutt, dragging three kids, all under 4 years old along. Her husband was about 6'5" and weighed about 120. Very, very hard on the eyes.

    Another was not that pretty, but always dressed in a very classy way. More sexy than beautiful. Saw her at a shopping mall. I didn't recognize her but she noticed me. Came over and reintroduced herself. She told me she was "single again." I told her I was DF'd and no longer a JW. You should have seen the change in her countenance. Reminded me of Agnes Moorehead in "Dark Passage." She actually said, "Eewww!" threw up her hands and pointed the palms toward me, and then turned and practically ran away.

    One gal was the niece of our Congregation Servant. She was so cute when she was 11. Cuter at 12. Getting hot at 13. Eye popping at 15. Voluptuous at 16. I dated her a couple of times when we were both 17. Took her to the beach. Couldn't take my eyes off of her. I lusted after that girl, but nothing happened. Ran into her when we were both 20 - she was still single and seemed hot to date again. Told her I was married and had a little girl. Her eyes went cold and her lips flattened into a small crease. I looked at her again and realized that much of her appeal was in her smile and her flashing eyes, not her body. Suddenly, she looked like someone's 45-year old maiden aunt.

    There have been a few others that I've bumped into over the years. Now that I'm in my late 60s, I will see some girls that were in my high school graduating class. Very few have aged well (of course, neither have I), and I'm often relieved that I did not end up with most of them.

    Unanswered prayers! Thank you Jehovah!!!

    JV

  • miseryloveselders
    miseryloveselders

    You know, in hindsight I'm kinda sorry I did this thread. Some days it just feels good to express myself on here, regardless of how it comes out. Its therapeutic to be honest about my mind state and emotions, especially in the moment. Reading what I posted, I feel kinda like a drama queen. I guess I was just in one of those moods last night. Being honest, I am happy for both of them, even though he does come off cocky to me, and in a different world I would probably dislocate his jaw. I don't know if I'd necesarily call it jealousy because to be honest, I don't think I would hit on her today if she was single. I haven't seen her in a few years, and as far as physical attraction goes, she doesn't have the same wow factor that she had the first time I met her. She hasn't changed all that much physically since I first or last saw her prior to yesterday. As I'm typing this, I feel a certain numbness when her face pops into my head. She's actually a very attractive woman, but I feel numb in my heart toward her.

    Is it at all possible to not be attracted to someone any longer, but still feel that they unknowingly betrayed a part of you? Its like she took something from me that wasn't important enough for me to fight for, or even bother asking for it back. I feel like there's a principle that she broke, although I can't describe or remember what it was. I looked at her husband and his grin and I felt as if he was an accomplice to her crime, although I don't feel either one of them are guilty of any wrongdoing. Does any of that make any sense? I don't know man.

  • snowbird
    snowbird

    YOU.

    NEED.

    A.

    GOOD.

    WIFE.

    That'll cure what ails you.

    Syl

  • Hoffnung
    Hoffnung

    Hey man, you're a human of flesh and blood after all. Does not hurt to show that once in a while. Having real emotions ain't a bad thing. Was a single living on my own for 10 years before I got married. You still can do it.

  • Ghostface
    Ghostface

    I get a kick out of seeing females I used to date at various halls. Most of them are superspiritual now and married to elders or guys that have been to bethel, mts etc. anyway...its funny to me b/c I remember some of the wild, crazy things we used to do..and I KNOW that the men they're with now have no clue as to what those ladies were like say...10yrs ago or so. (I even had a 3some with one who invited her worldly friend to join us.)

  • Hoffnung
    Hoffnung

    Hi Ghostface, welcome on JWN!!!

  • miseryloveselders
    miseryloveselders

    My sentiments as well......welcome Ghostface. You a Wu fan?

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