Wow Zid....that was very touching. Your shared lifes experiences are appreciated.... It's safe to say that losing your best furry little (or big) friend is not that for removed from losing a family member, because they ARE family.
My Labrador died can anyone please help me. I can't stand the pain.
by Witness 007 73 Replies latest jw experiences
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ziddina
Yup, Sam, they sure are...
Hope my comments help Witness 007... It's awfully tough to lose a friend, be they two-footed or four-pawed...
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callitquits76
Hey there,
so so sorry to hear about your dog. I know for a fact that I would be in complete pieces if my dog died. I have two dogs and they are my soulmates. Last year one almost died after running after a stick and it got stuck in her mouth, but thankfully, she pulled through. I was a complete mess during this time and absolutely nothing mattered to me. Do you find that things that you used to care about now seem so trivial?
I emphasize with you when you say that your dog was your best friend. Many people would not/ do not understand this concept. I'd go so far as to say I would take a bullet in my head for my dogs. It is no wonder you feel very upset. I have a friend who just lost his dog and it is worse than losing someone in your family. The reason why this matters so much to you is because you are a great person who took out a huge section of your life to look after an animal. We take this for granted after we have had pets for many years but the truth is that many people just cant be bothered. Focus on the life you gave him and what he could have had besides you. Perhaps a lifetime of going one rescue home to the next? Perhaps, God forbid, a cruel owner. Not you. You loved him with your entire heart and soul. You cared for him. He could not have had a more better life than what he had. Please try to focus on these words but it will take time. Right now you must be feeling that no other dog can come close to him, but you must think about getting back on the wheel. The thought of owning another dog may seem insulting to his memory but there is another dog out there, waiting for you to help him/her. They could never replace your dog, but he will be forever in your heart.
I hope my words have helped. I cant imagine the grief you feel right now, but I pray you will get through it. Can you remember the times he picked up on your mood and tried to comfort you when you were upset? What would he do right now? How upset will he be to see you so upset? Just as he bounced over to say hello to another dog, he wants you to do the same.
My thoughts and prayers of with you.
Kind regards
Jon
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ambersun
My heart goes out to you Witness 007. I know only too well what that pain is like. When our dog died we were all overwhelmed with grief and still miss him terribly, but thank goodness the heart wrenching pain has now eased off.
Also, please rest assured that you are quite normal in your feelings of guilt, wondering if you could have done more at the time. I was exactly the same and tortured myself for ages as I went over and over his last days in my head thinking of ways I could have made things better. This is all part of the normal grieving process and WILL pass in time even though you may not believe it right now.
Hopefully by reading these posts it will help knowing you are not on your own with your unbearable pain and anyone who has lost a beloved pet will know the pain and the emotions you are feeling right now. Try not to beat yourself up over it. Your lab was really lucky to have had such a happy life with owners who adored him.
Take care Witness 007. Please be assured time is a great healer
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doofdaddy
So sorry to read your pain W007. I had a dog as a child that was like my brother. He mourned the death of my mother with me. He literally saved my life on a number of occasions. When he died...It was the end of my childhood. Time has not healed that pain. I have not had a pet since. Sorry to not be able any solace.
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ziddina
Oh, poor DoofDaddy!!
That is SO sad... I've seen a few people who, like you, loved so deeply that they couldn't get past the pain when their beloved pet died...
I mourn that sort of situation terribly; for that is another person who has a loving heart who could provide another needy animal with a good home, if they could only get past the pain...
I hope that you can get past the pain soon, so you can be a friend to another great little animal...
Hugs... (((((DoofDaddy)))))
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doofdaddy
Thanks Zid
I learned to channel my love to my children and also into my career as a social worker. I do love animals and am surrounded by nature but will never have a dog as a pet again. It's just too painful to part. I could analyze myself and say he symbolised my mother( and her sudden death) but really, I am at peace with my decision and dogs and kids seem to search me out!! That's a good sign eh?
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ziddina
Yup!!
I suspect, though, that some animal will adopt you, eventually...
Better not hurt its feelings by turning it down... Besides...
Eventually all things die, but you - and the animal - would have had many, many good years together before that happens...
Remember the good times...
DoofDaddy
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Heartofaboy
It is so painful to lose the companionship of a faithful dog.
The initial pain feels unbearable but time will eventually help.
My dog is buried in the garden & it is a comfort having her there.
Hoab
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Heaven
Our pets are just as much a part of our circle of family and friends that we love with all our hearts. I am so sorry to hear of your loss Witness 007.
What was his name? Would you be willing to post a pic of him here?
I try to focus on the positive and think of all the fun times I've had with the animals that have gone from my life. I have had a number of them go. Like doofdaddy says, the pain will always be there but so will the happy times you've had with your special pal. You can choose to focus on the good and not the pain.
Also, taking action is always something that helps me as well. Perhaps do something in memoriam. Some suggestions would be to create a special photograph book, picture book, donate money to a worth animal cause in your dog's name, etc.
Anyone else have any memoriam suggestions?