Do you get hassled for posting here frequently?

by sabastious 38 Replies latest jw friends

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  Quentin

  ....spot on...
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  snakeface

  Over the years, each time I saw hypocrisy or had doubts about something, I reasoned, "Well, just because one elder did that doesn't mean the whole organization is like that....this is still God's organization, everyone is imperfect......just because this one CO did that doesn't mean...."

  On this board I've been able to view the organization from a higher, global, viewpoint. Now I see it wasn't just that one elder or that one CO; others on this site (perfect strangers, in other areas) have had the same observations/experiences/doubts.
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  free2beme

  Here is my thinking on this ...

  Often people who come here to start, are looking for a connection to their past Witness days. It might be a connection like ...

  A.) Knowing that others had experiences like them, and seeing how they dealt with it.

  B.) Wanting to know what Witnesses believe now, as they do not want to ask a current Witness and seem interested again. This might be done to reenforce the knowledge we have now, that they are not God's choosen people or organization. It might also be done to help with communication with relatives or friends still in. Prevents being blind sided.

  C.) They feel a need to help others make it out, by sharing how they did it and so on.

  D.) They still like talking religion from time to time, and enjoy sharing their thoughts with people of like backgrounds.

  All of these can have a timestable, but they do not have too. They can also be compared to that local bar or club you might stop at from time to time and share some thoughts with your bar/club buddies. It does not make you a bad person, as communication is a great part of life, it makes you human. However, this is a level in which all boards or social networks, can cause harm.

  A.) You start to see yourself as a councilor or teacher!

  B.) You start to become emotionally connected to the board. In which you take things personal, you take them serious and you find your own personal real life affected by the words said here. Like it was too much of your life.

  C.) You buy in to the hype! Someone tells you that you helped them, and now you think you are qualified to help everyone and express your thoughts like they are law. "I know how to fix that, you should do this ..." and "What you need to do is this ... " In which you basically went from advice to a self proclaimed leader.

  Anytime you go from a simply enjoy the board to thinking you are something more important then a poster, or seeing someone as more important then just a poster. I think you are dealing with a lot more then this board can, or was meant to offer. The exit is not easy, and each person will walk out in a way that fits there 'real' life. So, judging these people and saying they come here too much is simply you taking your path and expecting everyone else to follow it.

  Facebook, Twitter and for those few still using MySpace. You all know that people love to write and communicate. Do it there, do it here, it doesn't matter. In the end, social networking is a normal part of this modern world. Like anything, it can lead to addiction in some personalities and moderation is always a good choice. Just do not let others judge you and do not judge others in their usage. We pay for this internet connection, use it the way you want and what makes you happy.
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  CoonDawg

  My wife will sometimes say things about my not being able to let go because of my time spent in converstation with other ex-dubs. However, she knows that I can't really let go because my daughter is still very much "in" and having to deal w/ how that cult affects our relationship has everything to do with my need to still talk to others and deal with this in my own way.
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  drewcoul

  LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

  SAB, I was thinking about posting this EXACT TOPIC!!!

  My wife will see me on here and say "are you looking at your J-Dub stuff again" or if I have the day off, she will make a snide remark about "Looking at J-Dub stuff all day"

  I agree with Cyber Jesus. Only born-ins understand this. We are the only ones who can relate and the only ones who understand each other and can talk to each other about it. It is sad, but I think it's necessary and very therapeutic.
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  satinka

  I have to keep explaining that I am still in healing mode and it is important to question myself... and learn who I really am...view myself through my own eyes, instead of how the WT sees me.

  It's about finding my own identity.

  satinka
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  jgnat

  I've been careful from the beginning to be open about my participation here. My (JW) hubby calls you guys my "chat bunnies", and I rarely get hassled.

  My secular firends freaked out the first time I met some fellow posters visiting me from out of town. After all, you never know who you are talking to on the internet. Without exception, the internet friendships have been great.

  This is a special board, you know. Most Discussion Boards I have visited fail to make critical mass. As a consequence, I might wait days or weeks for response. Here, there's no fear of that happening. There is opportunity for dialogue, communication, a meeting of minds. www.wordlab.com is another vital discussion board; a pleasure to visit.

  I also come here to purge the toxins from over-exposure to Watchtower materials.
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  Scully

  minimus:

  yeah...i post too much.

  I nominate the above statement for Understatement of the Decade.
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  shamus100

  ** ahem **

  ** looks up at Scully and gnat **

  ** then to self **

  ** sulks off the thread **