by Terry 65 Replies latest jw friends
I tend to have very strong opinions and very strong ways to put them. I also tend to go ten extra miles. If I'm taken advantage of, or treated unfairly, however, I can be a bastard. So people like me if I happen to be bold enough to say what they wouldn't say themselves, or when I am "good to them". And then they dislike me, sometimes very much, if I go the other way.
My coming to this forum reinforced my atheism and that has brought me an enemy or two.
only nice people like me
abusive people, mean, nasty people, liars, even bullies don't like me very much
I guess I could also add people who don't like to follow rules, people who think they are better than everyone else and insist they are better, smarter and more wonderful than anyone else
oh an people who don't like to hear the real truth
Awesome display of Outlaw Syndrome up there, Outlaw. We're gonna make a meme outta you before it's over.
If I have an opinion worth holding I will defend it - this does not mean I am angry. It always surprises me when anger is imputed to a person who strongly disagrees with something they have said. This to me reflects the imputer's state of mind.
Off of the board I find that people like and respect me even if I disagree with them. I don't like to be thought of as nice anymore.
Outlaw, you just made me thirsty again. I need a drink.
I don't communicate well in writing. More often than not it leaves me outside a topic when I post to one. Least that's how I feel.
In person most people are drawn to me and find me soothing to be around, was told one time by a young agitated lady it was like "sitting next to a warm fuzzy" when we talked. She got over her agitation by the way. However, over the years I have hardened and have become one who doesn't care if you like me or not. I chalk that up to becoming an older man.
TERRY:
My answer really is Lady Lee's answer. People who are generally nice and not arrogant and not looking to take advantage or get-over on other people will usually like me, because I do not behave this way towards others.
As for the rest of the human race (in or out of the religion, on the street or in an office) who are guilty of the above obnoxious behavior, no they will not like me because I will not tolerate or humor them.
Goodhearted people like me. Dishonest people do not like me because I call them out for being a scumbag. I was working with some people this past summer, on a very important military research project. These people were liars, thieves, and incompetent. And, I told them so to their faces. So, I am pretty sure that they do not like me.
I married a girl much younger than me a couple of years ago. Her mother and youngest sister think I'm crazy but they really like/love me. Some other people said things about me that are not true adn my sister in law jumped all over them. I like my sister in law so that was a huge complement.
To be honest, if I think someone is good, I am very kind to them and it matters to me if they like me. If someone is not good, I am certain that they do not like me because I told them off probably, or I just don't speak to them.
I have to agree with Lady lee and LHG... I tend to find that nasty people will be all over me, to the point of stalking and then they will turn on me like rabid dogs! I know a narcisstist a mile off. I put it down to growing up with the dubs! Lol. I think it's because these nasty people try to control and lord it over me and fail miserably!
I could be wrong and just be a nasty person. Who knows! My family love me...
Peace
WATERSPROUT:
I have had my terrible run-ins with people throughout my life, mostly when I was younger. Sometimes people you start out liking (mutually) end up hating you and you wonder where it all went wrong.
I tend to think most of the problems we have with people are because there are NO boundaries being set or they are overstepped OR if there are wrong expectations on somebodys part.
Many times, people will not like you if they can't take advantage of you in some way. On a job, people might not like you because you do better work or the boss likes you, etc., etc. If I notice that somebody doesn't like me, I examine my conscience to see if there is something I have done wrong. If not, then I conclude it is something I have no control over. I will still be cordial on the surface but I will not concern myself about it. Sometimes people will not like you and there is not a damned thing you can do about it.
