Hello everyone. I’m new to your site so I’ll present myself. Its been 15 years since I escaped the borg. I was in a unhappy marriage. Everyone knew my ex was horrible, but encouraged me to “wait on Jehovah”.
After what seemed a very long time, I got fed up with waiting and took matters into my own hands, and left her. It was quite a shock for our smalltown cong, as I was an elder. The morons didn’t seem to know what to do, and took two months before they removed my “ privileges” ( who ever thought of that term?).
After a few weeks more of nobody talking to me, I left, saying that I needed some space. I trod carefully though, because of my parents. Funny thing, but I cant remember ever having a visit from the elders. Lucky me!
A year later and I met my new wife to be, and was subsequently disfellowshipped, even though I moved 1000 miles away to live with her. I add this detail because my ex was then living with a guy, under their noses and was never disfellowshipped. ( But then again she was an elders daughter!)
For years my parents never spoke to me, like the good obedient borg they were. Then my dad died, and I got the “ you know what to do if you want to see him again” thing.
My mum then got very I’ll, and since then she keeps in contact with me. I want to keep contact with my mum now, though each time there is always a little dig. So I keep our telephone conversations short, and as I said, I live a long way away now.
The thing is, each time I phone, she reveals another wopping hypocrisy. She knows that annoys me, so she adds “ they can fool man but they cant fool Jehovah”.
In short, each time I come off the phone I am really angry. Unfortunately, my wife cannot really understand, and tells me I need to talk to someone. I don’t think she really meant this forum, but you are the ones who will understand me.
I’ve read lots of your posts and sympathize with you all. Its not easy, especially being estranged from our loved ones. But with the passing years I’ve come to realize that ( without being selfish) you have to think of yourself first. We are NOT going to live forever, so EVERY minute counts, every minute is precious. Live life to the full. Take care all. I'm sure we'll speak again soon.