I read a book in '96 when I divorced, after 21 yrs of marriage, (the last half of that time was mostly a growing cold war over JW issues, but were other issues too). It was stated by the psychologist that you need about for every 4 yrs you were married to need a good year for yourself to regroup, and re-center yourself again healthfully. He stated the ratio is not necessarily absolute and depends on other issues, but his experience said it was normally so. So, please, go slowly and don't jump into obligations of relationships too soon.
Divorce is certainly very sad. It takes time to recover. However, I am grateful it happened and was able to move on in so many good ways. None of my 5 children ever took to nor got baptized in JWs and have grown up with free minds and lives and are very grateful also.
Six years ago I married again to a wonderful man, never a JW. He is a retired history school teacher of 33 yrs. Between us we have 16 grandchildren and are enjoying our retirement years immensely.
