Once again we received the May 15th " Witness only " WT from our lurking JW friend. Even though I've been out for over 7 years and haven't attended in that long - I never cease to be amazed at the arrogance of this patriarchal man pleasing WT society in it's dismissive attitude towards women . It's horrible. Here are some of the quotes .
Under the title " Christian Familes - Stay Awake " on pg 9 it describes a Witness woman as compared with a " worldly " woman . It states , "Rather than manifesting the attitude of DISOBEDIENCE and independence that characterizes the world, she is in SUBMISSION to her mate. A wife who is foolish does not hesitate to speak unfavorably of her husband, whereas a wise woman works works to increase the respect that her children and others have for him. Such a wife is careful not to UNDERMINE her husband's HEADSHIP by nagging him or arguing with him. A foolish woman likely squanders her family's hard-earned resources. A supportive wife is not like that. She COOPERATES with her husband in financial matters. " Unbelievable. A lot of stuff said here. Basically translation is : JW wives are slaves of their husbands who have to submit to them and not diobey them. JW wives are NOT allowed to argue with their husbands as it is viewed as disrespecting or undermining her husband's headship ! But what if the husband is WRONG ? You have to support him as a wife - and not argue. Same thing with financial matters - It makes such a big deal about a JW wife squandering family income - What if it's the HUSBAND who is squandering money ? I knew more JW men who blew their money on expensive toys at the expense of their wives and childrens welfare ! Yet- not one word of counsel towards the men here. It's just blindly assumed women are worse with money than men.
The article continues, " Moreover, she ( the JW wife ) is supportive of her husband when he gives counsel and discipline to their children. How different she is from an uncooperative wife, whose children suffer physically and spiritually ! " O. K. This is really twisted. What if the JW husband is beating the kids and is too dictatorial and abusive towards the children ? It seems to me that a JW wife who would be required to support an abusive JW husband beating or abusing the children would be MORE of a danger than a wife who spoke up to prevent it !! Then if a JW wife let her husband have his way abusing the children - then the children really WOULD suffer " physically and spiritually. "
The article goes on to say how a JW wife will rejoice and be joyful in supporting her husband as an elder and be happy for him for the alleged " sacrifice " he makes serving the congregation. Then a final point which grates on me is this quote, " Being exemplary in a supportive role may be a challenge for a wife when her husband makes a decision she DISAGREES with . Even then, she manifests a " QUIET and mild spirit " and cooperates with him to make his decision work. " O.K. This is once again a twisted errant thinking. Newsflash to any JW wife - What if you disagree with your husband because he's being a idiot making DANGEROUS and HURTFUL decisions which could put your family and yourself in danger ?? Are you STILL going to support him though he's guiding you and your kids into quicksand financially, emotionally, or physically from abuse ? All I can say is I hope there are JW women standing up to this controlling pile of cowdung information and saying " Enough is enough ! "
All I can say is I feel very sad for ANY Jehovah's Witness woman these days. They don't even realize just HOW controlled they are. Not ONLY by the WT society- but by their husbands as well. As always I look forward to your takes, comments, and discussion of this. Thanks much ! Hope you are all doing well. Take care