What action should I take with my favorite cousin who is very condescending?

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I think I had enough of my cousin! I'm planning to cut him from my life. This is a cousin who has complained to me the last 10 years about his wife,kids,work and troubles with his brother and father. I've listened to his troubles and tried to help him in every way.

Two weeks ago I called him and told him I had some health issues. I was in the hospital for a day and took all kinds of tests to see what was really wrong. They still don't know where all the pains are coming from. I've taken 2 C.T. scans,went to a surgeon and will take an M.R.I Saturday.

Here is our conversation:

Me: I went to the hospital today to see what is causing all my pains.

Cousin: What did they find?

Me: I might need surgery.

Cousin: So,get it done.

Me: I'm going to read up and also get a second opinion.

Cousin: Stop reading so much. You're getting to sound like my dad who complains about everything. I hate people like you who question everything. Go get the surgery done and stop complaining.

Two weeks have passed since we talked. I don't need surgery. I don't plan on speaking to him from now on since he was so condescending to me.

lovelylil

Yeah, He sounds a little self centered too. Notice how he brings the conversation around to HIS father. ppl like that only think of themselves and are usaully very negative towards others. He never once said I am sorry you don't feel well? Very insensitive imo.

Since he is just a cousin and not a sibling you may want to cut ties with this jerk.

Gayle

well, he sounds like a "pain," so just emotionally-surgically "cut" him off.

he has no empathy, or normal concern, to responds supportively, and encouragingly!

Scully

Amazing - no concern for your health. Just go ahead and have what might be an unnecessary surgery, and quit yer bellyachin' already - yer gettin' on mah nerves!

My question is what makes them your "favorite" cousin? Are they nicer than all your other cousins? If so, then you need to make some friends. Your relatives suck.

drewcoul

First, learn to spell the word "Surgery", and then get a new favorite cousin.

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Scully

I've lived close to him all my life and treated him better than a brother. For some reason,we always got along fine and call each other every two weeks.

I forgot to mention that I've loaned him money over the years when he and his wife were going through financial troubles.

Yeah....he is self centered and he thinks he is the only one with problems.

Snoozy

Doesn't sound like enough to write him off..sorry. Just keep reminding him he isn't the only one with problems next time he complains..

Snoozy, who doesn't write friends/relatives off at the drop of a hat..

scary21

Just speak up for your self and tell him how you feel. People say stupid stuff all the time. Just talk it over.

Scully

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I guess that's a good reason to try and salvage the relationship or mend fences.

Maybe you could have lunch with him and tell him how relieved you are that you went for that second opinion and don't need surgery after all. Thank him for sharing his feelings, and then punch him in the face for giving you bad advice. No, I'm kidding... you can say that you feel like punching him in the face for giving you bad advice... then have a big belly laugh and tell him what a goof ball he is for behaving insensitively to you and remind him that he's not the only person with problems. If he hasn't repaid his debt to you, tell him his first instalment is due at the end of the month.

heh heh

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Scully

He did repay both loans off. Every year he sends me Omaha steaks for Christmas. He sometimes treats for dinner,golf or any outing we go to.

I think that he is very condescending with his wife and family. Most of them have had enough of him where I've let him slide over the years. Maybe now this was the last straw.

What action should I take with my favorite cousin who is very condescending?

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