Pinch me. Am I Dreaming? (page 2)

baltar447

Excellent news! I'm happy for you. If anything I'd just hint that he shouldn't be making such a major decision this early in his life anyway since he's not an adult.

In spite of the immediate change in the landscape, this must be good news for you Julia. He has obviously thought about things and made a decision . . . I doubt he will reject his own conclusions at any time hence.

If a change in living arrangements is what he wants . . . then go for it . . . enough people must be alerted about the ex and understand it's your son's decision . . . you'll probably get blamed whichever way the domino's fall . . . his future (and yours) is more important than what people think.

I'm happy for both of you . . . the best is yet to come

leavingwt

Awesome!

snowbird

May your son and you be blessed forever and ever.

Amen.

Syl

journey-on

You should be soooo proud of him. Your post made me stop and think about something:

My son is grown now. We are as close as a mom and son can be. He is not only my son, but one of my best friends. He told me a while back that if I had not left JWs when he was just a little kid, he would have left it at some point. He said even as a small child, the whole thing seemed weird and repressive. If I had stayed a witness, I would not have this beautiful relationship with him today. He and his little family would be estranged from me, and I would still be knocking doors as a free sales rep for a "real estate investment company and publishing house posing as a religion".

Morbidzbaby

That's awesome, HIS!! I agree with RADHESYAM, though... If you're going to be blamed for it anyway, then you may as well let your son come and live with you. It's awesome he was able to open up to you and let you know how he is feeling...and it's awesome to know he is thinking for himself! If you do have him live with you, take that time to gently bring up some subjects and find out if it's the restrictiveness of the cult that he is not wanting or if he truly doesn't believe. If he still believes somewhat, then you can go from there. Good luck and again, this is really awesome news! It gives me hope in my own situation.

jamiebowers

I'm happy to hear this, for your sake and his. But it seems to me that you still have the mindset of a guilty feeling df'd person when you say,

I already talked to my sister and she has offered for him to stay with her if it comes to it since she doesn't want me getting blamed for this.

You two are mother and child. His place is with you if he doesn't want to live with his dad. The courts did not impose restrictions on you as far as physical custody is concerned. The only reason your ex-husband has the kids is because you felt unworthy of your own children.

Ding

Headisspinning,

That's great!!!

And he is afraid you'll BLAME yourself!

You never know what's going on inside a person, especially when they are in an organization where uniformity is demanded.

A JW who seems to have rock solid confidence in the organization may be in turmoil inside but afraid to show it.

You and I have talked a little by PM. If your son would like to email me too, that would be fine. If you want my regular email address for that purpose, let me know and I'll send it to you.

headisspinning

Thanks everyone. This has really shocked me. I will let you know what happens after our talk today.

I am going to take it really slow with him and just listen to his thoughts without influencing him with mine at this point.

Then we'll see where to go from here.

I'm not ready to expose him to this site at this point but we'll see what develops.

:) HIS

Mad Sweeney

HIS, you have a PM

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