Feminism? No way

by StopTheTears 51 Replies latest jw friends

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  StopTheTears

  My mother was a hippy who kept a pile of Erica Jong and Germaine Greer books beside her bed. (Like every other avowed feminist in those days). Needless to say, she didn't feel the need to do the cleaning and we lived in an unkempt home. But she did give me the "values" that i was equal to man and could even pursue sexual liberation.

  Now at age 46 those "values" leaveme cold. I want children and a christian husband. But they are not to be seen

  I was led to beleive thaat was old fashioned. To that end I sacrificed my womanly duties before the altar of feminism. You can search for all the excuses you can findbut if you are a young woman the biggest mistake you'll ever make is to pursue a career. God created you to be a "help mate" for your husband. (genesis2:18) and a mother to the children.

  I implore you do not wait until itis too lateifyou are a young woman. Make the right choice NOW by seeking gods will and purpose for your life.
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  dgp

  I have a few thoughts on this but can't post right now.
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  GrandmaJones
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  aristeas

  STT

  Wow, that's quite a heartfelt post! There is an unquestionable divide between biblical views and the modern western world's values, on so many fronts. I have a cousin who went through the 60s & 70s movements & social unrest. She lived in Haight-Ashbury and we used to smoke weed together (all before my JW days). She was big on women's lib, making social changes, etc. Then I saw her at a family reunion around 1990 (?), about the time I was exiting the O, with a husband and child she had given birth to at 40. I couldn't get over how'd she had changed and gone back to traditional values. She said she'd never go through childbirth again at that age, so they adopted a girl from overseas so that her daughter could have a sister. To my knowledge, she's never had anything to do with JWs/WTS, but she has swtiched her values away from the world's, like you have. I hope your tears do stop. Offering your advice here to younger women is thoughtful of you.

  Peace.
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  LongHairGal

  STOP THE TEARS: I agree with you that feminism is a disappointment. Unfortunately, those early feminists were wealthy women and the average woman could not really relate to them. While I agree with equal pay for equal work, I think the ideal situation for most women is to be happily married. Note that I said "happily". Don't beat yourself up over the situation. The world and society is screwed up and many people (both men & women) are unfulfilled. Don't give up hope because you can still meet somebody. Feminism is just another bill of goods as far as I am concerned.
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  No Room For George

  LOL, I haven't even read the OP, but after seeing the thread title and then the picture, I am dying right now LOL. StopTheTears, you're a crazy whacked out woman if there ever was one, but you're hilarious whether thats your intention or not.
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  No Room For George

  Now at age 46 those "values" leaveme cold. I want children and a christian husband. But they are not to be seen

  I was led to beleive thaat was old fashioned. To that end I sacrificed my womanly duties before the altar of feminism. You can search for all the excuses you can findbut if you are a young woman the biggest mistake you'll ever make is to pursue a career. God created you to be a "help mate" for your husband. (genesis2:18) and a mother to the children.

  I implore you do not wait until itis too lateifyou are a young woman. Make the right choice NOW by seeking gods will and purpose for your life.

  Well StopTheTears, I'm in my early thirties, and I'm available. I like older women, especially business women. I love the power suits, french manicures, heels, short haircuts. So if you're interested, send me a picture.
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  Band on the Run

  I am a very happy feminist who has seen the times change. Choosing a career was your choice. I worked for NOW and was a member. Feminism is about choice. Many feminists married and had children. Choice was the central theme, not career or corporate attainment. God is a woman as much as God is a man. She is happy with our choices. You are blaming your personal issues on a movement that had nothing to do with them.

  You are not dead. Go ahead and do whatever, no one is stopping you.

  I was not wealthy. Feminism helped women who work in factories as much as the Erica Jong Barnard/Wellesley crowd.

  Perhaps I will return to post just what women faced at the time The Second Sex and the Feminine Mystique were first published. Alice Paul is alive and well in spirit. Our sexuality is an important area. Women can marry today for marriage sake, not for support or life definiton.

  You are distorting reality but I do understand your concerns. Very few women can have everything all at the same time. Most women can have an accumulation of everything.
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  rebel8

  (barf, not from morning sickness, but from the sentiments in the OP)

  I suppose that is supposed to be a joke thread or something.