Oh goodie! Even more.
@Paralipomenon:
It's nice that you left the old life behind even though your parents haven't. It's just awful how eager hardcore JWs are to cut family ties. Maybe it's for the best that your parents aren't involved with their grandchildren...
@TotallyADD:
Even the thought of going to even one meeting in my local KH makes me positively ill, never mind returning to full activity as a JW. I'll admit that it's hard to lose the good graces of your family but I'm glad that you see your former "friends" for what they really are. I'm glad that you're keeping yourself busy too instead of moping around...
@sd-7:
The armageddon thing is a lot of bunk, isn't it? The problem often lies in how deep-seated, irrational fears are implanted into the minds of the very young. It can be a difficult thing for some to shake. I'm glad that you can use knowledge and logic to put such fears aside...
@ifonly789:
It's good to know that, though you haven't even been out for even a year yet, you don't have any regrets about leaving...
@Morbidzbaby:
That really is the one thing that bothered me about JW "friends": how superficial they tend to be. There are hardly any genuine ones that I've ever known. The ones I've known would probably throw me under a bus too if they found out something. I've been thinking about moving away from my area as well, but I count my blessings; at least none of my family are in town. I'm pleased to know that you wouldn't allow the threat of shunning from your family get in the way of what you really want in life. Even though I've always been close to my family, I can't live for them...
@Joliette:
Sing it, sistah! Most JW friendships are indeed a fraud! I wish that I had never believed in the fakers and haters in the first place. It's all so artificial...
@EmptyInside:
I suppose you still are in the early stages of your exit and I do understand the confusion to some degree, as do many of us here. We are here to support you and hear you out. The confusion does eventually go away, though; trust us. Perhaps you are lucky when it comes to the kinds of people in your local congregation but many of us here aren't. I will admit that there were some people in my local congregation and others whom I really liked and still miss sometimes, but then I think of the many folks whom I can hardly stand to be around anymore as they are the majority, unfortunately for me.
No need to feel overwhelmed at what to do and where to go. Just take things a step at a time. Live life one day at a time. Keep reading and keep posting; we still want to know how you're doing. You'll find your place in the world one day. Just think long and hard about what you're good at and what you're passionate about. Admittedly hard it's to do when your whole life has been swallowed up by serving a worthless cause...
@paladin:
It's hard to shake some people off isn't it? There are a couple of individuals in my life who don't seem to get that I don't want to have anything to do with them or JWs anymore. The conditional aspect of JW fellowship is truly sickening...
@Kensho:
It's nice to know that you've begun your fade now. I'm sure it's hard to give up an eldership, especially because of the peer pressure in some congregations. I hope that your fade proceeds with little disruption but don't bet the farm on it. It's good to live your life on your own terms; don't let anyone sidetrack you in that regard and I'm sure you won't. I also believe that the basic moral principles in the bible are fairly sound: no need to throw out the baby with the bath water. Don't worry about your use of parentheses; I use them lots too. LOL.
@Doubting Bro:
Most here will agree with you about the WT$ not having anything to do with God; that's why we're all here. LOL! I hope things continue to go well between you and the misssus... maybe she'll see through the hypocrisy and backbiting of her fellow JWs one day as well. I'll agree that there is no need to pull the DA trigger unless it is a life or death matter (and your sanity IS also a life or death matter... literally).
@WTWizard:
I've always marvelled at how you could continue to be so angry at an entity you don't even believe exists. I will agree the there does seem to be a conspiracy in some circuits, if not the entire organization, that seeks to keep the ones who are seen as misfits eternally single (regardless of gender). It does seem to be a verifiable phenomenon about the leadership clamping down on organized activities or anything that's actually FUN. The GB really is tightening the screws on the rank & file. There really is no reason to go back...
@wobble:
Even though I'm not so stuck on what the teachings are, I agree that the history and the conduct of the JWs/WT$ are truly shameful. There are individuals who's company I also miss, but I can't live a lie for them. It really is the ultimate revenge on the WT$ to live your life with happiness ans stability despite what they preach to the contrary...
@redredrose:
It's nice to know that you don't see anything worth going back for. I don't either. You are in an enviable position in that you've gotten in contact with old friends who have left the bOrg as well... many of us aren't so lucky. I wish you and your husband the very best in the new life you're seeking to find...
@OnTheWayOut:
We're happy to see that you live your life as freely as possible despite still having a "faithful" JW for a wife. We're still here for you whenever you need us...
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