by minimus 28 Replies latest jw friends
I had more rumours spread about me while I was ''in'' the WT...
Once I left I became known as a ''JW hater'' and an apostate. Well I have never hated the dubbies... I hate the WT not the sheeple... Plus I never rejected Christ so neither am I an apostate... I was an apostate while a dubbie.
Peace
How do you treat others to make yourself feel better? PUT THEM DOWN! That's what the JWs do. They don't follow Jesus' and the Apostles example of "JUST LET THEM BE" they want to make a villian of you.
Always talking about love while looking for trouble (amongst the JWs)...yet they won't dare do that shyt to anyone WORDLY.
I sure as hell hope so! Because if there weren't then I misjudged those assholes pretty badly.
I think the following insights nail it;
RIV - If a JW leaves the organization and doesn't become miserable out in the “world” it could be psychologically unsettling to those JW’s still trapped inside the group.
designs - They have to demonize us in order to keep the delusion going.
WMF - I think there may be some subconscious jealously involved in this.
MINIMUS: They circulate rumors when people are still active, so what would stop them if you aren't there?? Most of the gossip happens out in service. Good luck trying to get to the bottom of a rumor even if you are 'active'. The offenders are very well-protected. When I "faded" it was thought I had a boyfriend, or at least that's what one elderly lady told me. But who knows? What defense could you possibly have against this giant gossip machine.
"If you really think you can have friends in this cult, just leave and you'll discover who your real friends are..."
How true this is. And it extends to family too. Some are reluctant to disown, but there are others only too eager. Real friendships are very rare - and even if you think you have a friend, they are likely to express a negative opinion of you behind you back. Judging others is a normal activity within each congregation, and it's often done to elevate the one judging.
I remember one elder saying his employer, also a JW, was less spiritual than him because he worked full time in his fruitselling business. However, if it was not for this man's generosity the elder and his wife would often have starved - that lazy good for nothing elder thought pioneering was more important that feeding his wife, and was not even grateful when given gifts of fruit and vegetables, always saying he 'deserved' the help of his fellow brothers due to his JW activities. Imagine if that person was stumbled by that elder's disregard for his duties as a husband - the elder would see that as confirmation that he was right all along that his employer was indeed weak - the fact that HE was a jerk would not even enter his mind. This is the way it is in that Org., and when someone leaves or is stumbled, the gossip mill often starts churning out all sorts of crap to make sure the blame stays outside the congregation and with the victim.
SHEPHERD: I am a single woman who works full time and I was floored by the audacity of the attitude you mention about the JW who felt that his boss was 'less spiritual' because he worked full time. I despised JWs with this mentality and I wouldn't give them the time of day. Do you think I dodge cars and maniacs in order to earn a living and then give charity to ingrates looking for a free ride? Bottom line is that these people don't really want to work for a living! Well, they can go ask the RELIGION for money if they are starving. I have no pity or use for them.
I haven't heard any of the specific details of the rumors about us. All I've heard is that I'm an apostate. Which, by the way, is true.
I got df'd with 3 other 'sisters' so of course the rumor was that we were lesbians. LMAO. Hadn't thought about that in years.
Adiva
