What's the most insensitive thing you have been told while grieving?

3rdgen

A few years ago my 21 yr old firstborn and only son died in an accident. I was an active JW at the time. In fact , I was at the meeting when it happened. Most of the friends were very kind and tried to be "incouraging" but a couple were idiots. I'm sorry to say they were members of my own family. One who didn't bother to come to the memorial for him sent a card which was a sermon about why I should strap on a bookbag and spend more time in FS. But the prize for the worst goes to.... my own mother who called 2 wks after he died. My husband answered the phone and (I swear I'm not kidding ) she said "Well is she over it yet?"

finallysomepride

god some people got no idea,

probably the worst one that I can remember is, shortly after we were married I was diagnosed with cancer & very occasionally some of the jws would visit, this particular time a sister, who may not have known the situation at the time, when told what I had blurted out "oh you could die from that" my young wife was in the room & I heard it from the bedroom,

3rdgen

Hi FSP, That visiting sister is a real genius. How is your health now?

talesin

When I got out of the hospital after a bad miscarriage, I called my mother. She was very upset that we did not call her from the hospital as it was happening (fear of blood transfusions, I guess). Then, she said lots of women lose their babies, and that at my age, it was probably a good thing. Oh, and did they come to visit, maybe bring us a casserole or something (I was out of commission for a week or so) --- NOT!

tal

finallysomepride

3rdgen

thanks

tal

I had no idea what you have had to put up with, your mother, like, that's the sort of thing my mother would do or say

What's the most insensitive thing you have been told while grieving?

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