Are You Afraid To Die Alone?

by minimus 39 Replies latest jw friends

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  minimus

  I know of someone that is concerned that she will be all alone when she dies.

  Are you afraid to die alone???
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  N.drew

  There is a big difference between being old, sick and approaching death alone (I would not like that) and being alone at the moment of death (I think I wouldn't care).
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  sizemik

  Good point N.drew . . .

  Do you mean at the moment of death to die alone? . . . or to be alone when your old and dying? . . . or both?

  Being alone is not good at any time IMO.

  But if I was the only one in the room cos my wife was up having a pee or something, and I died in my sleep . . . then I'm not afraid about something like that happening. But if the last months of my life were without contact with any friends or family, and nobody noticed I was even gone . . . then that thought itself is a little scary.
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  ralorweigh

  never think about that.
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  tec

  I think it is the living alone that is the hard part, when you get older. What happens if you're hurt? Or sick? Or you just need something that you can't get, and you have no one to help you? No money, no food?

  Dying alone - truly alone - (right at the point of death) might be scarey. I can see that. Not knowing if you should have done something, believed something... all sorts of doubt and panic about what happens ne x t, if anything at all. Dying (long term) alone, though... that is just kind of sad.

  I personally am not afraid to die alone (meaning without people). But I'm not really ever alone, even if I am without people, so that helps for me.

  Peace,

  Tammy
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  N.drew

  Hi ralorweigh! That is an interesting name.

  I have never given it thought either, till now....
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  Lore

  Afraid of it? No.

  Would I be upset? Depends on what kind of mood I'm in at the time I guess. . . It might be more annoying to die with company depending on who it is.

  I'd be more afraid of dying BECAUSE I'm alone. . . I could be really old and fall and not have anyone to help and die because of it.

  But if I'm dying either way I'd probably prefer if there was nobody around at the time.
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  tec

  I'd be more afraid of dying BECAUSE I'm alone. . . I could be really old and fall and not have anyone to help and die because of it.

  Yes, this is similar as to what I was trying to say above.

  Laying there in pain and knowing no one is coming to help...
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  Band on the Run

  I was placed on a hospice unit b/c it was the only bed my pain doctors could get. Since the Witnesses, I've been terrified of dying. It is not rational at all. The gospel verses where Mary Magdalene goes to embrace the ressurected Jesus and he tells her not to scared me. I've been alone a lot b/c of illness. When I was first ill, my friends flocked to me. People did extraordinary things. Years pass and you are so alone. I must admit, though, that I always found some substitution for family. I wonder how many people have Norman Rockwellian families.

  I hope a nurse or aide is around if I am conscious. While I was on the hospice unit, I saw a range of reactions to death. It comes whether you are ready or not.
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  AlphaQup2nite

  I beleive that death is the natural conclusion to life, and as it such, isnt something to be worried about how you die. Death gives life meaning. The constant threat of it gives you motivation to do something with your life RIGHT NOW. And at the end, unless you are in some weird suicide cult or possibly supernatural situations, everyone dies alone. Death is an end, and thinking about it should make you think about your life, and if you really lived up to your own expectations of what your wanted to do. So no, i dont fear dying alone, any more then i fear getting sick alone, or sleeping alone. They are all things that i would prefer to avoid if possible, atleast the actions, but i realized its beyond my control. Once you accept that you will die one day, really really accept it and understand it, you dont fear it in any form. Alone, surrounded by family and friends, or suffering as the french say "Grand Death," dead is dead. The circumstances dont matter, its the results that do.