Are You Afraid To Die Alone?

by minimus 39 Replies latest jw friends

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  AGuest

  If you are meaning without any "loved" ones (or quasi-loved ones) around, dear Miniman (peace to you!), I would have to say that I often hope that IS how I die: alone. Assuming I am not "changed" (another thread, folks, so save your comments for that one). My hope (most often) is that, if we all MUST die, all of my loved ones "go" before I do. Wait... let me explain. It's not that I want to outlive them for the sake of being old/not dying myself. It's because I have experienced the great pain and "loss" left by death and I wouldn't wish that on ANYONE (so, my sincere condolences to all here... and everywhere... who have!). I am very important to my loved ones (for which I do not and will not apologize, to anyone... ever - however, my heart DOES go out to those who don't have/feel the same in THEIR lives). So much so it sometimes grieves me just thinking about it (what my husband/children/puppies would "suffer" if I were to die, which is the ONLY reason I even think of it).

  Death doesn't scare me... but the pain, suffering, and mourning my loved ones would experience... well, I just don't want that for them. I would rather it be ME who undergoes that kind of pain and suffering... for THEM. Again, I've been through it and so think I could manage/undergo it with "less" pain. Maybe not, but that's how I think.

  As I've often stated, I don't think as many do, so some may not be able to understand my position on this. They may think that I should want to die FOR them. That, too, is true: if my death could GIVE them life... I would die in a heartbeat. But it's not that I think I should live longer and they less... or even want that for any other reason. I just don't want to be the cause... ever... even in death... of my loved ones' experiencing ANY pain and/or suffering. I just would rather suffer the pain of burying them... than have them suffer the pain of burying me.

  Hopefully, we will never have to do either. If, though, we do (which is more likely, of course), my hope is that they WILL be able to bury me, and then move past their pain and continuing "living"... and not just existing.

  Of course, this applies as to dying now or in the near future and not to if I am [very] old or terminally ill/greatly suffering.

  Good question, though, dear one - again, peace to you!

  A slave of Christ,

  SA
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  james_woods

  Even conjoined twins die alone.
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  Twitch

  No
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  Terry

  Are you afraid to die alone???

  Well, you can try to take a lot of people with you....like those airplane hijackers!

  I think what is particularly ugly about dying is that we are none of us allowed to do it with dignity AS WE SEE FIT.

  When and How should be a state approved right because our life belongs to us before it belongs to the state.
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  ziddina

  Uhhhhhhh.....!!

  EVERYONE dies alone.

  Just as someone else cannot use the restroom for you, eat for you [except mom when she was preggies with you...], blow THEIR nose to clear YOUR head, or breathe for you...

  When it comes to that final moment - and I saw my grandfather die; I've had to have some pets put down; I've seen death - in that final moment, ALL life is 'alone'...

  From what I've observed, that instant is the most lonely in all of existence. One is being pulled unwillingly away from life itself, and NO one can "run interference" to stop the moment of death...

  Not even a Bronze-Age Middle-Eastern male sheepherders' volcano 'god'...

  Zid
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  mrquik

  I want to go peacefully while those in the car I'm driving are screaming in terror.
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  rocketman

  I'm going to be in the casket alone anyway. Unless someone wants to join me in there, I'll be forever alone once I die. So the actual action of dying alone doesn't frighten me.

  I had a relative who died in an accident while several states away from his home state and town. Facing death alone is something that many people do contend with, and that is kind of sad. I know it's tough on the family - not being near that person, hearing about it over the phone. It is difficult.
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  AGuest

  Given the varying responses, perhaps you should clarify (a bit more) what you mean by "alone," dear Miniman?

  Peace to you!

  A slave of Christ,

  Sa
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  Lore

  I guess the only way to make sure you don't die alone is to become a suicide bomber. . .
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  minimus

  I think "alone" means without anyone around you---literally.