Dangerous "Pent up" feelings inside of most witnesses?

by stuckinarut2 25 Replies latest jw friends

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  sowhatnow

  freemindfade you said exactly what i have been feeling but couldn't find the words, lol, its this mindset I wrestle with, as well,
  

  its an emotional see saw , questioning myself and debating over every singe thing I do.

  and Im sure im not the only one who doesn't know who I am. I dont know who I could have been, what I could have accomplished different, what my likes are. ect.

  so now when i do something, if it was something that Id not ever do as a jw, that guilt is there tormenting me, and I have to constantly tell myself its ok.

  this is why so many people in the world are so difficult to figure out. they have a torture from within that we cant see.
  
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  zeb

  The psychologist my husband and I went to see after leaving the WTS listened to our description of the rules and regulations regarding sexuality even within marriage that JW are subjected to and he said that kind of repression often leads to child abuse. This was twenty-six years ago and we said no there is no evidence of that!

  Emph mine. Reading this was one of those "Whoa!" moments.
  
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  James Mixon

  When you have a low level of awareness in your brain your desires can

  be pretty mismatched with your heart's calling-this is normal because

  when you have low level of awareness you are mostly taken in by

  conditioning and shallow perceptions, of the outside without really getting

  a sense of your own natural makeup, wisdom and inner guidance.

  "Deluded Desires vs Aligned Desires".
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  Gone and forgotten

  Sowhatnow, you expressed exactly how I feel. "I don't know who I am. Who I could have been, what I could have accomplished, what my likes are, etc." I sometimes feel so lost and overwhelmed by all the choices, possibilities, and all that could have been. So many times when someone asks what my preferences are, I truly have no idea. This can be frustrating and confusing for the people in my life...but my guy has been infinitely patient as I continue to grow and rediscover living.
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  LisaRose

  Is the guilt they experience more harmful than the movie itself?

  Yes. It's a religion based on guilt. They are setting you up to fail, because people that are worried and guilty are easy to manipulate. You are either too busy and tired from their burdensome requirements to think about their failed predictions or you are so consumed with guilt that you try not to think about them at all. Either way they win, they would rather you be miserable than have you leave and be happy.
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  Heaven

  Xanthippe said: The psychologist my husband and I went to see after leaving the WTS listened to our description of the rules and regulations regarding sexuality even within marriage that JW are subjected to and he said that kind of repression often leads to child abuse. This was twenty-six years ago and we said no there is no evidence of that!

  Holy sh!t!.

  In my experience with my JW family members and friends of my parents, there is this smiling veneer thinly veiling sadness, guilt, fear, self-righteousness, and anger. There is nothing positive about any of those emotions. Beating oneself up over a self-imposed belief system based on mythology is not reasonable or logical. You cannot expect positive outcomes from something like this.
  
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  Xanthippe

  Sorry you've lost me Heaven?
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  adjusted knowledge

  I was never allowed to watch R rated movies growing. When I turned 18 I went and watched Brave Heart. I never once felt guilty, and though the movie was violent, it was probably nothing to the true violence of that time period.

  I was at a meeting talking to an Elder. I happened to mention I watched the movie, and it motivate me to research the history behind William Wallace. The Elder began tearing me down about the dangers of watching a R rated movie. The interesting thing was I knew is 16 year old daughter. She would go to school, change into an entirely different outfit. She also had a boyfriend and was sleeping with him. But he was more worried about me watching an R rated movie.

  So no I never felt guilty because I did what I wanted, but under my parents roof I did obey. The only guilt I have in life is not making friendships at a young age with non-witnesses.
  
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  Giordano

  I have often wondered if there is more harm done to people who are stifled or smothered from expressing their natural conduct, feelings or actions because of it being condemned by religious ideals?

  Conformity, marching in step, accepting whatever the WT and or the GB comes up with, sounding a certain way especially when giving a talk or prayer at the KH, never encouraging independent research or thinking Is stifling. The bible said "to each their own gift....." the WT says act this way, walk this way, dress this way.
  

  Eric Hoffer said......... "Not only does a mass movement depict the present as mean and miserable - it deliberately makes it so. It fashions a pattern of individual existence that is dour, hard, repressive and dull. It decries pleasures and comforts and extols the rigorous life. It views ordinary enjoyment as trivial or even discreditable, and represents the pursuit of personal happiness as immoral."
  
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  freemindfade

  When you wake up fully from this witness madness, you realize that others accept and love you only based on who you are, and you do the same with everyone else.

  Something that the witnesses or any doomsday cult look down upon strongly. But you suddenly realize you have wasted so much energy and love obsessing about nonsense.