Single at 40 .JW virgins.

sleepy

Come on admit it, if you were brought up a witness you were dead scared that you were going to end up like the men you saw prowling the assembles and congregations looking for wives.
There would always be men and women in there 30's and 40 who had never had a boy or girl friend.
I used to know quite a few.
The horror of their lives shocks me.
Now I not dissing anyone who has chosen not to marry that is their choice.But these people I know want to meet someone and get married.
But the bad news is that the older they get the harder it is to find a wife .What makes it worse is that the choice is so limited.

Many of these grown men are even affraid of women . Why?
Because they are taught that even to look at a woman is to commit imorality let alone talk to one.
I knew a brother who had never had a girl friend , he was about 26 at the time.Now a sister asks to go out with him so he accepts.Quite soon she wants to hold his hand.
This brother now tells her off, for in the family book it says holding hands is only for people who are going to get married.
He doesn't go out with such a spiritually weak sister again.
What has the socity done to these peoples lives.
Many people who were once happy teenagers hoping to meet the wife or husband of their dreams are now approaching 40 or even older and have never even had a girlfriend.Theri only hope is the new system and I don't want to breack the news to them but its not coming.

jolly_green_giant

That is soooo very sad to see. I feel sorry for these people that buy into that crap.

Rummy1

Sleepy that is soooo true luckily not for me!
I knew one brother who was probably in his late 20's early 30's and used to prowl assemblies for sisters(ISP remember)Trouble is he was really slimey and gave sisters the heebie jeebies
Last I'd heard he'd had a complete breakdown and was back in Wales living with his mother.(He must be 40 odd now at least)

NameWithheld

One reason for the mass meat-market that is the JW assemblies. The ONLY reason I attended. To scope out the chicks ...

Too bad I was too shy/akward/ill-equiped(not smooth w/ the ladies) to get laid should have been taking lessons from Francoise!?

/edit ...
Uh - 'ill-equiped' to get laid sounds awfully bad - let's just say the equipment wasn't the problem - I just never got to unwrap it

flower

i feel bad everytime i look at my brother. hes 35 and never had a girlfriend to my knowledge. its also made him an angry person. hes not able to talk to anyone without becoming impatient and angry with them especially kids. its so obvious that he is extremely lonely and unhappy. but he does get involved with sports to fill his time so thats good.

i also have a 34 year old sister who is a virgin. she has never had a man so much as look at her with interest to my knowledge. she wants to get married one day but shes never found anyone. what you said in your post works both ways. she limits her options because any guy her age that is not at least a MS or pioneering must not be spiritually strong enough to make a good husband. Single young brothers have come around and she had opportunity to flirt or get their attention but the most important thing to a dub is to find out how spiritual they are first. It doesnt matter how kind, caring intelligent or witty or any of the things that normal people look for in a friend. If they arent giving the org their all then they arent marraige material.

my other virgin sister is 31 and she is a whole nother story. shes really wacked out in the head. angry, jealous, bitter. shes become a cruel person just like her father. in dealing with her i have to remind myself that she is the one that really needs help.

flower

target

There was an older widowed brother who married a middle aged sister.
When they went home to his house, he told her "That is your bedroom down the hall." She was shocked. Weren't they going to sleep together? He said "Of course not. What would my wife say when she is resurrected?"
He wanted someone to cook, clean and do laundry and not have to pay for it. She had the marriage annulled.
A couple of mid 40s virgins back in Wisconsin just got married. It was obvious that they both were settling for what they could get.
It is sad. A lot of them marry people they aren't thrilled about just because the pickins are slim.

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JBean

So true! I know of many "brothers" who are in their late 20's, early 30's, 40's who have led many older (30's) "sisters" on... major flirting, false promises, telling them things like "let's work out in service together so we can get to know each other better so one day, maybe possibly, we can get married....etc. and then as soon as a young hottie moves into the area, pounce on this 17/18/19 year old and get married in a heartbeat!!!! They are marrying young girls who have NO IDEA what it is to be a woman yet. Soooo many sisters have had their hearts broken by these HEARTLESS boys. (This sounds like I was one of them, but I was not! : ) I married a "worldly" instead!!!! ahahahah!) Jbean

RunningMan

One of the side effects of being a JW is social retardation.

We can all site countless examples like the ones above. The root cause is the fact that the JW religion is a very dangerous thing when it is taken seriously.

In reality, successful JW's do not seriously believe what they teach. If they did, they would not save for retirement, get married, have children, go to school, etc. Those who are not swift enough to realize that armageddon is just pretend, end up living in a very distorted fantasy world.

flower

LOL jbean..

in my old congregation my siblings and i were something of an anomaly because we made it to such ripe old age without being married. I was about 21 when i started fading out...all the kids coming out of high school after me were hitching up with each other and getting married. but the guys were such horrible dorks all of which i had grown up with that i couldnt even imagine being married to them. all i would have had to do was ask and more than one would have been willing but yikes what a scary thought. thank god i didnt.

flower

JBean

Flower: Yup... I hear ya! All the young couples that got married just in my Congregation ALONE right out of high school are now really very miserable or divorced. And in this day and age, I have five "sisters" that I can think of off the top of my head that re about 35 yrs old who are now "old maids" according to the congregation. They all sit together at assemblies, like old grandma's... yuk. And most of these gals still live with their folks. Now I say C'MON! If you're not going to be married, then at least show some courage and become independent... get an apartment or something... Jeeeezzzz! (But I guess that's hard to do on a housecleaning salary... and we ALL know that's ANOTHER story!) : ) Jbean

Single at 40 .JW virgins.

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