Single at 40 .JW virgins. (page 2)

Rummy1

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I remember when I was a dub in the congregation how the young people were almost ritualistically paired up with each other in the hall by their parents and elders. One elders son, who was already once divorced, was paired up with a young sister fresh out of school. It was almost comical in that other than the "trooth" they had absolutely nothing in common. I last saw them at a local event in town with a newborn. While talking to them I got the feeling that they were NOT happy with each other at the time. Last I heard, they were on their way to getting divorced.

It appears to me most of them marry young to legitimize having sex more than anything else. Better to be tied to an overbearing, egotistical, JW company man than an "worldly".

And these same people will look condescendingly down their nose at you if you tell them you haven't been making meetings or is inactive.

ofcmad

As mentioned - equally sad were the 17-19 year olds who got married to prevent themselves from getting d'fd for fornication. My promise to myself then was that if I wasn't legally allowed to buy alcohol for my wedding night, I'd be DAMNED if I was ready to get married.
Another thing that is sad is those that settled for someone in their congregation because they couldn't look anywhere else. For example, I knew a 17 year old girl (my best friend at the time) who was in love with a guy, (I believe to be a closet homosexual). Well, he committed fornication with another woman to prove to the elders that he wasn't gay. (Yes, the elders had to counsel him to stop his feminine qualities because it was causing people in the community to question his sexuality) So she broke it off with him, and wound up marring a 32 year old guy. (she currently has four kids with him now). Well he (the first guy) eventually winds up marrying her cousin. His new wife is about 13 years his junior. Thank GOD I left when I did.

Tammie

Reading this sure does bring back the memories. Here was my experance, when I was in my early 20's. I had decided not to get involve with any one for a few short years. I was having way too much fun, part of that fun was traveling and other such things. Any way, I had decided that I wanted to try out the dating world. I was also at the point that I wanted to find that special some one. I remember this one guy that I dated, now mind you I had no intentions of marrying this fellow. He was the one who kept bringing up the topic of marrage. Most of our communication was done by either writing or phone. That lasted about 6 months or so. We went out on an actual 3 dates. I think if we had went out alittle more, I would have dumped him alot sooner. But one of the things he had said to me was, that how about we date for 10 years, and then get married. That was when I said forget it. I knew I wanted to get married, but not to him or when I was in my 30's. I said forget it. A very short time after that was when I would meet my husband. My husband at the time looked exactly like Doogie Houser (Neal Patric Harrison). Even in our engagement photo that was taken for the newspaper he looked like Randy Travis in his younger years. I figgure if I was going to get married, I would find someone who would help in producing adorable children. Any way, not to long ago, I saw that guy who wanted to waited 10 years to get married. Lets just say 10 years have come and gone. He is still living with mama, and getting creeper looking.

The truth can never be hurt by a lie,
but a lie can be exposed by the truth.

2SYN

Good grief! This thread just reminded me of my weird estranged relationship with a Dub who was in school with me for 2 years after I DA'd myself...he hung out with the same circle of friends as I did, and we were quite close b4 the DA thing...then after that everything just carried on as normal, I would laugh at his jokes, he would laugh at mine, but the two of us would never exchange 2 words! I guess I respected the fact that he wanted to remain a Dub...his ENTIRE family was in it. But he was still just the coolest guy! People would give us very odd looks sometimes. I knew the guy for 6 years, and the last 2 years of our estranged friendship we attended classes together, hung out together, but would never utter a single word to each other. Only since school ended I haven't been able to see him again...a pity, he was a nice guy. All the other Dubs in the school dropped me like a hot potato. Yikes!

I saw a couple of Dubs (literally a couple, a guy and a girl) wandering around in a shopping center near my home last weekend and it was the saddest thing. I knew that that boy and that girl (for that, mentally, is the highest level they've ever reached during their sheltered little existence inside the BOrg) were basically married to each other at birth by their parents - they had little choice in the matter, and one day their bitter marriage would end, but only figuratively - physically it would HAVE to continue until one partner snapped for lack of sex or lack of tenderness and went somewhere looking for it.

Damnit, this BOrganization has ruined so many young lives - it's one of the most angrifying things in the Entire Universe for me! [>:(]

Target: That's horrible! Imagine being a Dub, finally getting married, and getting so excited about having sex for the first time (*shiver* I actually experienced this!!! Unbelievable) and then your husband tells you that. I would have introduced him to my friend, the blunt breadknife

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jaded

Sleepy mentioned the limited choice of single JWs. This reminded me of one of the stupidest comments that I ever heard in an assembly talk. Close as I can figure this would have been in the late 70's. One of those talks about marrying only in the lord...the brother stated that surely out of two million JW's we would be able to find a mate. HELLO??? We meet JWs at our hall and at assemblies, half or which are old ladies. Sheer stupidity! Even sadder, everyone sitting there nodding in agreement. Jeez, I should have woke up a lot sooner than I did!

Fredhall

Hey All,

It sounds like some of you are not marry. If so, then I feel sorry for your mates.

Beans

Give me a 40 year old Virgin and then lock the door because I`m not coming out for a week!
Beans

anglise

Reading these comments reminded me of a pioneer sister in her late 40's who longed to get married.
She was over the moon one day to have a brother (an elder from a nearby cong) interested in her and told people that Jehovah had answered her prayers as he knew she didnt want to stay single.
What she conveniently overlooked was the fact that this brother had been widowed just a few months earlier having been married for about 30 years.
So what she was really saying was "jehovah killed his wife so I could have him"
Her experience was also used at the pioneer school and circuit assembly to show that you dont need to rush into marriage and that jehovah will provide what you need.
Does this mean that all elders should come with a goverment health warning.

HappyHeathen

Ah yes, dub mating rituals! When I was 15, a 25-year old pioneer brother started asking me to go out in service with him in the evenings -- you know, the old backcall routine. On the second of these outings, he asked if I would be interested in marrying him after I turned 18, then in the next breath, said he was leaving for Bethel for 4 years. He wanted me to wait for him until he came back! Can you imagine? I look back on that now and realize how WRONG that was. There were plenty of single sisters near his age around, but, no, he wanted a child to molest. Disgusting!

Single at 40 .JW virgins.