welcome here DonutZ!
My intro, hi!
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sizemik
Donutz! welcome to the forum . . .
Don't feel too bad . . . most of us arrived here in a pickle jar. The advice so far is good. If a DF is inevitable and you know it isn't the truth then the game changes completely as regards Elders. In reality the JW's are a tin-pot, piss in the ocean little cult full of their own importance. A pimple on the bum of humanity. This is how you should view them as that is what they are. They have no power except what you grant them and that should be 0, nada.
You call the shots now. You are free to play this by your rules. I don't mean being rude or aggressive or anything like that . . . just firm and unyeilding. Don't tell them anything apart from advising them it is being dealt with legally. Don't have a shepherding call or even personal visit from them. Especially do not even entertain the idea of attending a JC . . . that's just giving them power they no longer have legitimate claim to.
The other thing to be sure of is your wife's feelings on the matter . . . is this something you are united about?
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cedars
DonutZ - I agree with Sizemik's sentiments, and you have a PM!
Cedars
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DonutZ!
I honestly don't even know what my wife thinks, she tells me that she'll respect any decision I make and now that I'm thinking about it I really should know what she thinks. Anyways thank you all for giving me advice!! Lol you guys aren't "mentally diseased" like the magazine says, thank you! :D
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Broken Promises
Hello and welcome. I think you've received good advice so far. I also recommend finding a copy of Ray Franz' book "Crisis of Conscience" and reading it from cover to cover.
As far as the "hacking" goes, your wife might need to double-check her security settings. If things are set to "friends of friends" that could be why the elder was able to post on her wall.
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3rdgen
Very good advice here DonutZ, Like Sizmik and others have stated you owe the Elders nothing. By no uncertain terms I mean don't say IF you don't drop this action THEN we will obtain legal council. That is uncertain. The certain way to put it is: We HAVE legal council and WILL persue ALL legal remedys against you INDIVIDUALLY. They should be the ones in fear not you.
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rebel8
this certain elder hacked my wifes Facebook and went through all her messages and then wrote on her wall the time of her judicial meeting thing.
Ummm....what?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is seriously crazy behavior. Save a screen shot of it, several copies just to be sure.
What did the wall post say? What country/state are you in? It may be considered libel. If it's libel you may have in your very hands one of the extremely rare pieces of evidence to prosecute them for reputational harm.
If it's libel I suggest reporting it to the police rather than Facebook first. All Facebook can do is tell you to change your password and ban the user (if he has his own account), AFAIK. Facebook will probably just remove the evidence!
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Fernando
Hi Donutz! Welcome. Good advice all round.
I'm with Broken Promises on Ray Franz' books. If you could create the space and time for you and your wife to patiently read both (big!) books cover to cover before making any hasty moves or decisions. You could in the end save yourselves a lot of time and heartache if you end up on the same page and can support each other on the journey out of the cult.
If you could both agree to get and keep the hounders (Pharisees) out of your life (as described) until you know exactly how you want to handle matters. In the meantime agree to put everything on hold or in the "middle basket" so to speak. If possible try not to be religious (self-righteous) about each other's mistakes - we're all only human.
And you have your whole life ahead of you - don't allow the WBT$ to take control and ruin it. This is much, much better than only discovering the dark side of the Watchtower when you are 60!
Take care! Best wishes!
There is life, happiness and abundance after and outside the WBT$!
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cantleave
Hi Welcome to the forum.
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DonutZ!
The elder wrote: "Hey (wifes name) this is Elder Blah, can you meet with Elder BlahBlah and myself tomorrow at the kingdom hall @ 6pm? We have to talk to you about something."