been reading a few other articles on there too.. there's some good info to help faders avoid the shunning..
Choices you have to make after you learn the "truth"
by stuckinamovement 24 Replies latest jw friends
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stuckinamovement
Thanks Daniel.
Tornapart you have a pm
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Mickey mouse
I did #1 for a while and it mashed my brain. I couldn't live with it.
I'm doing #2 now and it's even harder on a personal level but at least my children aren't being exposed to it.
You're damned either way but I feel where children are involved, #2 is the only choice I could love with personally.
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adonai
First off I'm sorry that you are in that valley. This quote from Soren Kierkegaard helped me in this matter:
“To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.”
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mann377
Struckinamovement: I feel your pain. I am in the same situation and have been for a long time. Let me tell you how I have dealt with this hell hole of a situation. First I knew that once I started to fade that my "friends" would mark me and you know what that means. So before any fading I made friends outside of the organization by joining various clubs/organizations. This would give me some sort of social life and being marked would not have the t raumatic impact. I did not totally fade as I still go once in a while to meetings and assemblies/conventions. This was to pacify my wife/ grown kids. So to help my conscience I decided on a goal. The goal was guerrilla warfare against this cult. I would seek out new ones or one that "think" and make comments to help them reason about how crazy this organization was. An example would be at the convention when a statement was made that is confusing I would say in a very sincere way "isn't it wonderful to be in a spiritual paradise". You should see the looks in these people. It is as if a light has been turned on and now they are on their way to freedom. I know of four different times people have left because of this. It gives me a warm feeling inside knowing I have helped others to freedom while staying back in this prison. PS: don't say anything that is impeachable. After 25 years the fight goes on..............