My mother has been working forwell over a year to have a gastric bypass and she finally got the ok from her doctor and insurance. The date is set for this coming Friday. Although, I'm not 100% sure this will happen because she was diagnosed with pneumonia and a partially collapsed lung this past week. She has been sick for a couple of weeks and she finally saw her doctor the other day. She is on meds for the infection and we are hoping her surgery does happen on Friday, but if it doesn't it will happen in the next few weeks as soon as she is healed from the pneumonia.
I'm nervous about dealing with the elders during her surgery. She told me that 2 elders will be there to make sure she doesn't get any blood. The last time I had to deal with this kind of thing was when my uncle died almost 7 years ago. It is what drove me here to JWN, after being out of the Borg for 7 years.
One of the elders who was visiting my uncle cornered me in my uncles room and told me that I was making others feel uncomfortable by being there and he suggested that I go find a place in the hospital to wait on my own. I left and gathered my stuff and ran out of the hospital crying. I only came back because my mother called and and talked to me then she had my aunt get on the phone and convince me to stay. They said that no one had said anything to him and that he over stepped his place by saying anything to me. They told me that my family especially my aunt and uncle wanted me there. They needed me. The elder left and I stayed.
Anyway, I'm very nervous about two things, number one about the surgery in general because it is a scary thing for my mother to have surgery in her condition. She has lost a lot of weight already in order to even have the surgery, and she has been on a liquid diet for over a week now to prepare for the surgery. Number two, I'm scared that these elders will treat me bad and I know that this time I won't be able to suck it up and leave. I will go off and ask security to remove the elders because they are not family. My mom tells me that these elders are not Bob Maxwell ( the douchebag elder from my uncles room) and they will treat me nicely. They know I'm DA ed and she swears they will treat me as if I was any other person while we are in contact.
The only thing that makes me feel even a little better is that my mother is having her surgery at the Cleveland Clinic and she has been through a program where they looked at her health in everyway, including mental health, before they agreed to do the surgery. My mom also had to meet certian goals before that happened as well, so she had to prove her dedication to the process. So far she she went from well over 500 pounds to 357 pounds in the last year. She has been following her diet faithfully and gone to all her appointments for the different doctors she needed to see. I can see that she is determined to get herself well and this surgery is needed.
I'm trying to talk myself out of going to the hospital with a chip on my sholder with the elders. It is not going to be easy. Any experiance dealing with this kind of situation will be helpful.
