I hear yor message loud and clear, go sloooowly, be patient. Yes, thats the way I guess. Its hard though. I want them out, yesterday!
Yes, DOC, I remember my own proces. It takes time to get ready to sneak off into the dark corner. The person that disturbed my mind enough to view JW from another perspective was good at asking questions, and focused on the lack of love and inhuman behavior among JW and their thinking on people outside. That really made me dare to think thru the thoughts and questions I had hidden deep down for so many years. I also remember the guilt and fear when I finally started to read "apostate" info. But once started, that was my point of no return, and my eyes got wide opened. So, yes, the best would be if she her self took the initiative to read "apostate" literature, when she is ready. My job must be to make her ready I guess.
MASH - She lives 4 hours drive from me, so a bit difficult w fam.study, but a great idea. But ofcours studies over phone or e-mail have been heard of. I could use the idea. We briefly touched the 1914 issue on the phone. And I get the idea to suggest her to read the two articles in public version of WT, I think it was oct/nov-11, about the year 607 bc. Ding; - Lots to be Puzzeld, unsetteld and confused about there. I know there is a comment on these articles on here. I could ask her some questions to make her see how poorly valid these articles are. And from there....if 1914 is'nt right, how about all the doctrines and teachings that connects to it?????
JWFact; - Love your website! Great questions with Russel and what determines ones religion. Unfortunately (or not) I threw all my JW literature, including WTT in the garbage when I left 2 years ago. I hated it. Now, when back (100% undercover), I regret it. Would be usefull now. Darn. Will try to get the proclaimers book. There has been a download link once, but its gone.
Zid, DOC; - I have to make some damage control. I've allready mentioned COC to her, also telling her several persons been DF for having and reading it. She supprised me then by saying, "noone needs to know what we write or talk about mum". That was a comment that really gave me a flash of hope. Could she be ready? I am not sure, and will not jeopardize it. Maybe not mention the book in e-mail, for now.
Rydor; - So sorry about your bad experience.... I hope it all went to the better? Yes, I have felt that wedge. When I left and my youngest shunned me 100%, I am sure my leaving just drove her deeper into the clawes of the GB. She got baptized when I was out, 15 yo. Doing alot of aux. pioneering. Had I known what I know today, I'd done many things differently. But its to late to think about that. And after being happily reunited, I can feel that wedge building up again. She feels uncomfortable, unsafe and confused that I who raised her in the love of Jehovah, now turn my back on him, by coming very seldom to the meetings, not attending in FS etc.... Thats how she sees it. She is kind of preparing to make it thru without mum... Devostating. And I know she loves me to death. Its her way to protect herself and her way of not getting hurt....so sad. I did read Steven Hassans book while out, to educate myself for my mission. Fantastic book. I have to read it again.
Nugget; - Very encurraging. You are so right. Time IS on my side! I have to let that sink in...... I know, its their cult-minds, not them selves. I really feel I can reach Liv's natural self sometimes, but she often goes into cult-modus, ofcours. Well, she and lil sis are born in's. I lived a normal life for 22 years before I was trapped. I guess that made it easier for me to break free. Will probably take longer for my girls. But, time is on my side!.... What a relieving, and hopefull fact!
