Are You A Screwed Up Adult Because You Were A Witness?

by minimus 50 Replies latest jw friends

  • No Room For George
    No Room For George

    I'm completely effed up. I've got an inappropriate sense of humor, a tendency to embrace misanprothy, don't know how to tell people I love no, both fascinated with and respect anyone who hates or feels as indifferent to society as I do and that includes white nationalists, anti-goverment extremists, gangsters, drug dealers, and anybody else who thumbs their nose at this so called civilized society. You want to burn it down, I'll go get the gasoline damned if it's $4/gallon or not. Fukk that flag, the national anthem, patriotism, religion, Santorum and his dead fetus, Limbaugh and the girl he caled a slut, Democrats, Republicans, Liberterians, the 1st amendment, the 2nd one, any and everything within this society needs burned to the ground man. The part I hate the most is that I feel guilt for having such feelings, but at the same time I have this urge to be like Pharoah and allow my heart to become obstinate. I don't feel part of anything as a result of this JW upbringing, and at the same time I feel that the WT has done a pretty good job at stripping the value away of anything non-WT related, and for that I hate them and thank them.

    My mental health isn't 100% on point, matter fact it's not even 70% where it should be. Suffering from insomnia, mild depression, moderate anxiety, haven't had a woman's affection in about a decade, fantasizing about taking a trip to New York before they move to Warick and making Columbine and V-Tech look like an episode of the Care Bears by the time I get done. Feel like I owe them some get-back up in Bethel. They played a heavy hand into messing my life up, and I feel the need to return the favor. I'd never go up there and do something like that, but maybe the next time I get the oppurtunity to snuff a CO or another WT Heavyweight, I'll take it.

    On the other hand, to be fair, I'm making a living, I've got my physical health, a place to reside, not starving, not paralyzed or in Somalia or some other hellhole of a country. So I guess one should always count their blessings.

  • Disillusioned Lost-Lamb
    Disillusioned Lost-Lamb

    I'm a bit screwy anyway, but thankfully the borganiztion taught me to walk through doors the right way, ASS FIRST!

  • St George of England
    St George of England

    When I look around my congregation I often think I'm the only sane one there.

    George

  • d
    d

    Somewhat I do not saluate my countries flag or sing the National Athem. I also do not have in many institutions including religions. I have a very negative view of humans.

  • LV101
    LV101

    Ditto, Talesin --- my bio family weren't witnesses but screwed up.

  • dog is god
    dog is god

    I'd say hell ya. When babies are born and they grow there are certain stages of life that they have to go thru for the brain, emotions, and body to thrive. Like those Romanian babys who didn't receive any nurturing or be exposed to light they couldn't overcome the time frame that they missed. I think it's that way for born in's. Like dating. I didn't get to date because right before I turned 16 (when my mom said I could start) the WT came out with the "dating is not for recreation...only if you plan to marry". So there went that part of being around guys, regular socialization, setting different types of boundries. Married the second brother I went out with. He was outed 18yrs later. So I just keep living & working. I just keep trying.

    Hey whom ever is going to go postal (but not really) just take out the GB. They must have some sort of security there now. Pretty stupid if they don't. I would even guess there might be some guns hidden around. Too bad they have so little faith.

  • EmptyInside
    EmptyInside

    I don't know. I think I would have had my life together by now. But,I look at other people's lives and I feel pretty sane,most of the time.

  • finally awake
    finally awake

    I've been screwed up from the start, even though I am not a born in. My father abandoned my mother and me before I was even born, and that combined with a family that puts the "fun" in dysfunctional really messed me up. I have managed to stay functional throughout my life despite major depression and anxiety. I have never felt accepted for who I am, I have never felt like I fit in. I was ripe for the picking when the dubs started calling on us. I am still screwed up, but I am still plugging along every day.

  • Berengaria
    Berengaria

    I definitely was. Now I'm awesome.

    Finally awake, I get the feeling you are awesome too. It's simply a matter of accepting it.

  • av8orntexas
    av8orntexas

    I'm good. Better now that I left.

    I had a 'friend' a brother who would always tell me I needed to work on this, work on that. It was always something wrong with me.

    Now that I don't go or talk with him much, I realize nothing is wrong with me. I'm fine. I led a pretty normal kids life before baptism. I played baseball,football and track since about 7,8 all the way up until my seniot year of high school. I had normal non-witness friends. I was a solid A-B student.

    Then when I got baptized at 19 I had to put on my 'new personality'. Looking back, I was a normal teenage kid,but getting baptized slowed my normal groweth through my early to mid 20's. Put off things I should have done. Didn't buy a house at 24,25 because the 'new system' would be here. Why invest in this world ?

    Plus I was living at home. I can't stress how much living at home in your parents house in your 20's can stunt your growth even MORE being a witness. More so IMO than if you lived at home and WEREN'T a witness. The amount of control and guilt that your parents can wield over you. The threats of going to the elders, especially if you're a brother trying to reach out. Any hint of discord at home, a temper,no self control and you're toast !

    I was that guy you'd probably think,'he'd make a good witness.' Looking back, I didn't need to put on any new personality. Like lots of other people, and many on here my mom raised me well. So there was nothing the organization could do to make me a new person or better person. My mom had done that already.

    I think they take fine,normal people and make them think they need to change when they don't.

    But all said....I'm good. I'm in a good place. I'm in my 30's, I'm young.

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