When a JW leaves the WT org and tries give an apology to the ex-spouse they divorced or the family they shunned for 20 years, don't be surprised when they refuse to embrace you with tears of joy. You can't wash away all those years of cruelty with a simple," I'm sorry".
My ex-wife never apoligized to me for what she did to our family.(she left the KH 5 or 6 years after the divorce) She knows I was right all along (my kids have told me), but giving me a mea culpa just won't happen. I have my comeuppance anyway-- Every month I get 100% of a pension check that she gave away in the divorce in 1989. When her lawyer asked for 50% of that pension, I looked at my wife and said, " If you are so worried about getting old in this system of things, then maybe you need to just stay married' - she turned to her laywer and said, "forget it, I won't ever need that pension" Only in her last job has she started putting money away for retirement-- she cashed and spent the 401's from other jobs.
In my case, I apolgized to a lady I helped DF and told her who ratted her out- brother in law in another cong. I told my parents I was sorry for missing their birthdays and holidays and I worked very hard to make up for my mistake. I tried to apoligize to some unbelieving spouses for usurping their authority when I was an elder- funny thing was, they didn't want to talk to me, so I guess they were OK with being Mr Milquetoast and letting the elders be the head of their wife and taking her away from the home on weekends for WT busy work, burning his gasoline and wearing out his car looking for stooges to convert to the WT religion.