I think the guy who wrote this letter was a Sheldon...sounds just like him...
She refused to Return His Calls After a First Date, Then in Rage, He Rants Out, Very Revealing
by Scott77 254 Replies latest social relationships
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Iamallcool
Glander, that guy has better grammar skills than I do.
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Iamallcool
Glander, he made some voice calls. I can't do that. I would not be interested to go to Philharmonic either.
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Scott77
Glander, he made some voice calls. I can't do that. I would not be interested to go to Philharmonic either. Iamallcool Hi Mr. Iamallcool,
Welcome back from 'JWN break.' I just want to add. Individuals who frequents NYC Philharmonic I think, are members of high society class. The elites like Donald Truump.
Scott77
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Glander
Iamallcool - thanks for having a good sense of humor! You get some pretty blunt teasing here.
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binadub
My suspicion is that Lauren may have detected indicators on the date that Mike may be a controlling nut type who might be a jealous domineering abuser, possibly even dangerous.
Symptoms:
Said playing with her hair was known to be "flirting" (which I happen to think is baloney--he must have been reading too many how-to's).
Accused ordinary politness as leading him on ( #one warning sign imo) by:
* making eye contact in conversation;
* had nice conversation over dinner;
* saying "nice to meet you".
These are the things he listed as sending him the plus signals. The not answering his repeated messages after the date are the minus signals.
Plus signals + minus signals = "mixed signals." So he got all the plus signals (leading him on) on the date.
So he says of these so-called leading-him-on's (what I call normal polite): "In my opinion, leading someone on (i.e., giving mixed signals) is impolite and immature. It's bad to do that."
His language sounds like chastizing a child.The repetitions in his email suggest a disturbed rambling mind, not just another disappointed guy. Most mature adults know that hurt feelings in dating go both ways for men and women and most people have been on either side of it at one time or another.
I would be leary of anyone who thinks this guy is normal, like it's just the way all men are, as one poster suggests. Uh-uh.
What would he do if a babe really did do some things to "lead him on"? (Probably run.)
This guy seems desperate and not to be gotten involved with. She should change her email and send him a postal letter.Jmo,
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Cagefighter
NC- so is part of being a "liberated N. American" woman is continuing to date someone that you know you have no future with? No wonder I have no interest in most of the women I date. That seems a little dishonest don't you think?
There is nothing wrong with telling a guy you are not interested. If he starts crossing the line, then yes silence is the best answer followed by a the sound of 12 gauge chambering 00 buckshot if he comes back around.
Mrs. Jones- I can tell by the way you keep accusing this guy of committing a crime that you have never experienced it. It was not an assumption but rather a deduction, and no it is not a bitch it is logic. People that have been in a plane crash don't joke about them. You don't know what I have been through or the true stalkers I have dealt with in my past.
We all must own up to our part men and women.
A good example: The woman I have been talking to recently blew me off last weekend. She was supposed to call me Monday to re-schedule a date. I waited and Today (Thurs) she contacted me. Obviously someone else bailed on her. We all know what is up on these dating sites. No one is a child here. I felt bad for ignoring because that isn't my style. so I just replied back after a couple of hours. "Sorry, but you don't seem very available. I do not think meeting is a good idea. Good Luck" Her reply: "I'm driving" WTF? LOL..... Typical... It's women that usually can not handle the truth. Evade, Gossip, Slander, Evade....
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Hortensia
Playing with your hair is also a sign of boredom, guy. And playing with your hair can be a sign of pain, such as a headache. I doubt she was flirting.
If she answers his email, then she's engaging with him in dialogue. Best thing to do is to completely ignore it and maybe change her email address.
There's a really really good book to read about this kind of thing. It's The Gift of Fear, by Gavin deBecker. It lists 10 behaviors that are an indication someone is dangerous or at least untrustworthy. This guy is demonstrating at least a couple of those behaviors.
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panhandlegirl
This is just plain scary. I would actually be very afraid if I were Lauren.
Magwitch, I agree. SCARY! There are some people who are hard to get rid of once you meet them. They seem to think they own you just because they know you or have had a date with you.