by teenyuck 23 Replies latest jw friends
Dear Puffsrule:
There's a neat little thingy you can obtain for a comparitively moderate price that should do the trick quite nicely.
It's called a Restraining Order.
I think you'll like it!
Love, Scully
UADNA-C (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America-Canada)
Heh heh. My Mom-In-Law lives in Brazil and doesn't speak english. She does speak to me when the she visits, or when we go down there. I just dont know what she is saying. Come to think of it, I wonder, if I really should know.
Ah well, guess "what I dont know, doesn't hurt me" eh? OH MY GOD, WAIT A MINUTE! That's what the GB wants everyone to think!
**runs down to the local language school and enrolls in the Portuguese class***
D8TA
~ A day no season would claim ~
wow ... I guess I'm really lucky - I have great in-laws.
Sorry to hear about your ordeals with yours.
((((puffsrule))))
Coming from someone who has been there! Except my MIL is a raging lunatic bitch who has been a pioneer for 25+ years.
We haven't seen her in 3 1/2 years. She used to try to move in all the time and one day I told her "the day you move in, I move out! So who do you think your son will choose you or me?" Obviously he can't get a good hummer from his mother so there's your answer.
I say put your husband on call. Tell him how you really feel and that you will go back to work to pay for a nursing home if you have to but you will NEVER LIVE WITH HIS MOTHER!
E'Man,
I keep trying to get my MIL to see a taxidermist.
My mother-in-law says I'm effeminate. Compared to her I am.
HS
howdy Puffs,
It's interesting that your husband just kinda fluffs off what she says to you - and won't confront her. If she moves in, I do believe you can expect him to do nothing to contend with her, leaving it all on your shoulders. Am I pessimistic (sp?) or what.....
But I'd be willing to bet on it. My mil isn't too bad, as long as we talk about flowers. She really tries to be pleasant, however, she has an incredibly mean-spirited side.....and I just don't want to be around her. I'm mean enough already. Thankfully, my husband doesn't want to be around her either!
If your mil is this domineering now.......it's just gonna get worse.
waiting
waiting...I agree. I do think she would be worse. I would be the unpaid nurse.
The domineering point is also correct. My hubby, who can negotiate with the best of them in business issues, becomes a quiet, subdued person around her. She does this to both sons, so it is not unique to my husband.
My bro-in-law lived with her until she moved to Florida. He is 39 and lived with mommy until he was 37. She did all the things for him she is angry at me for...laundry, cooking etc. I think that is kinda funny. She did tell me she is desperate for him to get married and have children! Unfortuantely he is like his mother. A know-it-all mommie's boy. UGH!
I cannot figure out how my husband turned out almost normal. He did leave as soon as physically possible...age 18 he took a football schloarship and never went back. At least he saw the problem with her then...not at age 37!
I will have to confront him with the issues. It is one of those things that are easier to put off. The one big plus is that we are in Ohio, she hates the cold and her sister-in-law is a registered nurse. If anyone could take care of the old bat, it is that lady.
I won't!
Hey Puffs,
That's too bad that she is attempting to make an emotional hostage of you...keep resisting. Chances are you will never get your husband to stand up to her or confront her regarding the stuff she says...their relationship is already pretty well established. And, IMHO, you don't want to try to make him feel like he is choosing.
But you should also establish your boundaries and keep them sacred. Let hubby know right now that you will never consider having her live with you...it just wouldn't work. Doesn't mean you can't be compassionate to her later on, and fully support him in all his efforts to see that she is well cared for. But it doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your sanity and have her stay with you. Life is too short for that.
Eman and HS I don't know which quote was funnier
think41self
I'm telling you but nobody is listening! My husband hasn't been to see his mom in 3 1/2 years after I told him I'd move out. He can't live without me!!!
Now I even tell him to call her or go see her but after having been away from her kniving evil guilt-riding self, he just doesn't even want to go there.
I have absolutely NO, NONE, ZERO MIL problems anymore.
LOLOL @Bluesapphire
Ok Ok, I heard you. Hey, what works for one person doesn't work for another. For myself, I don't put up with high maintenance people any more in my life...period. End of discussion. But it took me 37 years to get to that point, and I don't like to assume other people are there and that what works for me will work for them.
think41self
