Mothers-In-Law---GRRRRR!

by teenyuck 23 Replies latest jw friends

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  DakotaRed

  Both of my current in-laws were a pain in the patootie. Neither were JWs, but didn't think too highly of them, either. The father-in-law passed away last year, but he was the worst.

  Not only did he dislike JWs (even though three of his five kids became dubs) he was an old hippie draft dodger. He could accept the fact of my and his daughter being dubs, but couldn't handle that I was a Vietnam Veteran.

  The only thing I can say is that he is gone and I am still here.

  If God's Spirit is filling a Kingdom Hall, how is it that Satan can manuever the ones within that Kingdom Hall at the same time?
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  teenyuck

  bluesapphire, I do hear you...like think41self said, what works for one person may not work for another. Since we have moved around so much, we have seen her 2-4 times a year over the last 12 years. That is more than enough for me and my husband. Her verbal assualts have occured while on the phone with me or while my husband was in the bathroom. She always does it when he is not within ear shot.

  I do not want to make it a "me or her" situation...however, I will not let her live with us.

  No matter how nasty she is to me, Moira is his mother and there are ties there that I am not going to try to break. Again, as think41self noted, supporting his efforts to find her other help or someone else to take care of her is a better option.

  I do appreaciate the input and advice. I also love the one liners.

  The taxidermist is the best!
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  Scully

  puffsrule writes:

  Her verbal assualts have occured while on the phone with me or while my husband was in the bathroom. She always does it when he is not within ear shot.

  My mother in law would do that kind of thing too. The first time she visited our home, I spent the entire week scrubbing our apartment so that it was perfectly spotless. Our living room/dining area/kitchen formed an L-shape with the kitchen kind of around the corner. I excused myself from the living room and went into the kitchen to get some drinks and refreshments for MIL & FIL. Hubby and FIL went outside, leaving MIL in the living room by herself.

  I guess MIL didn't notice the big mirror we had in the dining area that faced into the living room. As I was walking away from her (toward the mirror) to go to the kitchen, MIL was clearly reflected doing a "white glove" dust test on my furniture.

  I marched back into the living room with a dust cloth and said "Here you go, I noticed you were checking for dust, so if you find any you can clean it up with this."

  She didn't like me at all, always called me "that French girl" (even though there's no French ancestry on my side). She once bad-mouthed me to my brother in law's wife, saying that I never even offered to help once when we visited - an outright lie. When I heard that, I called her up and told her what I had heard and asked her why she would say something untrue like that behind my back. She made it very clear that I was not going to be her favorite because I was 'from away'. Whatever. I really tried to be nice to her, I sent flowers and letters to her regularly, and even made a framed stitchery picture for her. She never acknowledged or thanked me for any of it either. She died suddenly just two months before our eldest child was born.

  I used to feel bad because she went to her grave despising me; and then thought about how she'd be resurrected and I'd have to spend forever taking her crap. I'm so glad that is not going to happen!!

  Love, Scully

  UADNA-C (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America-Canada)
  
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  bigfloppydog

  Your MIL sounds like my mother, what a tyrant. I get along better with my mother-in-law, I have no relationship with my mother, told my sister I would not take care of her any longer, since I took care of her for many years and she only emotionally abused me.I carry a good sense of humour with my MIL and we laugh alot. She is 80 and a real sweetie. I think if you have her live with you, you will become emotionally damaged. Send her to a home.