Welcome aboard...one heck of a experience....really sorry to hear.
I'm Extremely Sad
by JetSetter 25 Replies latest jw friends
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whathappened
Oh boy, are you in trouble. I have been married to alcoholic bipolar men who abused drugs and I can tell you there is no happy ending to most of these romances. Get out now before you are in deeper doo doo.
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ziddina
Oh, sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear of this happening to you!
Is there any way you could get a DECENT roommate, so you could keep your lovely apartment? Someone 'vetted' by a rental agency, maybe?
Long ago, when I first joined this site, I started this thread. It probably isn't applicable to your situation, but maybe reading it - and the responses - might help??
Zid
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Chariklo
Welcome, Jetsetter! So sorry you're in this situation. Let off steam here whenever you like.
I agree with Satanus and Moshe and Shamus and everyone...get out now!
If it's your flat, kick him out. If he won't go, terminate the lease with the landlord and get out.
Where drugs are concerned, people are not themselves and they need help and treatment, and it does not have to be the person they're living with who gives it.
Just get out.
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FlyingHighNow
JW, ex JW, people are people. Alcoholism is a disease. He needs help. He has to want the help. For the future: demanding an addict stop being an addict does not help the addict. Doing an intervention might help, but only if the person is ready for the help. There are behaviors that go along with addiction. A person who is in active addiction will behave differently than if he is actively under successful treatment and support. A very good person can do horribly selfish, destructive things when under the influence of drugs.
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FlyingHighNow
Welcome, by the way.
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Londo111
Welcome! I'm sorry your going through this.
He definitely needs professional help. If there is any way possible to leave or get out, do so as fast as you can.
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jgnat
It's grief for the loss of what might have been.
Don't knock yourself too hard. Anyone could have been fooled in your situation. The trick is to be smart now. Protect your assets.
I have a good friend, still married to a gambling addict, who brings her purse to work with her - all her banking information - every day and locks it in her desk. She cancelled even her banking card and does all her banking at the counter in person. Before she caught on he wiped out all their savings. They were within days of being evicted.
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rip van winkle
Welcome! I'm sorry about your situation, Jetsetter. It's a tough life lesson to learn that even those we love can mask their true selves so easily. You gave your love and whole heart to a man you believed was a good and faithful man because he was a JW and not a worldly man. And you thought you knew him. You're not the first and unfortunately, you won't be the last.
I hope you will take all the steps necessary to make sure that his drug use and alcoholism will not make you feel sorry for him that you may let your guard down and take him back. Live your life- the way YOU choose. He can live HIS the way he chooses.
Jetsetter, you are lost for a moment. Now, you just have to begin building back your life, little by little and step by step. You'll find your way back.
Thank you for sharing your story.
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Mr. Falcon
that's heavy, baby. damn i'm sorry.