Do you consider yourself a DOOR MAT? (page 3)

tec

I have been a doormat. (has nothing to do with jw's; I never got that far along with them) I had low self-esteem... though i didn't really even recognizet that. Then I did something empowering (wrote a book, and in that book was a strong woman who was in authority, so i worked out a lot through that, lol). But it also helped me remember myself, and things that I liked about me but had forgotten. (Though i think I went the 'other way' a bit too much...thinking TOO much of myself... for a spell.)

Now I have a quiet calmness within me. I know myself very well, including my weaknesses. I am not a doormat. I am less concerned with what others think of me, and I am trying to do the right thing regardless of what some might think of me for it. My Lord helped me with the quiet calmness, and inner strength.

Peace,

tammy

hemp lover

@elderelite: Well said

@tec: You wrote a book? I'd like to hear about it. If you've already talked about it on the board and don't want to again, please pm me.

To the OP: I think I prefer the term "taken for granted" to doormat. It's less noun-y and doesn't conjure images of feet, mud and bad holiday graphics. I've absolutely been taken for granted by certain people in my life, but instead of throwing a pity party, I stood up for myself and changed my situation.

tec

I should have said manuscript, hemp lover. (I've written six of those, so they're not published... yet, lol) I have written one book and gotten it published. But it was not the one I refer to above. I'm sending you a quick pm.

Peace,

tammy