been there Cedars, lucky you didn't get the line "why do you hate Jeehoovah Uncle?" like I did, these visits are draining to say the least.
It isn't my home anymore...
by cedars 55 Replies latest members private
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dontplaceliterature
Cedars
Good to see you posting again. It's difficult for me to be around any Jehovah's Witness these days, even my parents. It took some guts to endure what you did. Things with my parents are becoming less superficial, so maybe they won't always be that way for you. My dad engages me in conversations from time to time that are candid, and he listens to what I have to say without freaking out. Thought it's an emotional experience for me, I value those conversations no matter how short they are. Best wishes with your family in the future. It's tough, for sure.
...and that damn Sparlock video! I threw the one my wife brought home from the DC in the trash, exactly where it belongs.
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creativhoney
PP I hope you replaced it with the LOTR trilogy
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cantleave
It goes to show that what is obviously bizarre to us who have "woken up", appears "normal" to those who are still subjected to the constant indoctrination. I am so sorry that your trip was marred by your experiencing the "conditional" nature of relationships and the judgemental comments that are so prevalent within the confines of the cult.
It was however great meeting you and dear Mrs. Cedars, I hope the blow-up wasn't too uncomfortable!
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creativhoney
It goes to show that what is obviously bizarre to us who have "woken up", appears "normal" to those who are still subjected to the constant indoctrination.
it took a couple of years but eventually thats just it - its bizarre! you look around and wonder how they can actually believe some of the stuff thats thrown at them.
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oldlightnewshite
It can be depressing to have to deal with crazy JW family. I don't think you should discount your own work to help others both here and on your blog. Every little helps. Also, i think it's good that we should all be outspoken about the lies that the WT sold us. My missus often chides me about the futility of doing stuff like Youtube vids. I think it is a valuable use of time to help others come out of the watchtower. The more that people stand up, instead of feeling stupid for once being a JW the better.
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Chariklo
Hello Cedars, it's so good to see you back posting again. Like others, I have missed you. You make a difference, and I'm glad I looked in here and found your post.
In my experience, visits back home to an extended family are always full of deep and complex feelings. There is all the joy of being with people whose roots are our roots, but sometimes it is mixed up with past unresolved issues and also the awareness that our own life has taken a course in which they have no share.
To some extent, that's always so in every family, unless they all live close by. In most families, or many families anyway, the mixture of joy and sadness, of complex deep relationships is overall very happy and enriching. Your family, and others so deeply entrenched in the Watchtower, are different and that must leave you with a sense of alienation which you must so much want not to have. It is a dreadful, untruthful religion that turns right and wrong inside out when it calls itself the Truth. I know so many families that sound the same, networks that then exclude one who does not agree. And the gossip that you encountered, and the indoctrination of the little girl with the "magical" video and the child not being able to enjoy birthday parties is also something I've witnessed.
Truly, the Borg is the best comparison.
Cedars, I am writing to you separately. Take care.
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perfect1
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.
>hugs< to you and Mrs.
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panhandlegirl
Cedars, glad to have you posting again. I´m sorry for the sadness and alienation you experienced during your visit with your family. I recall feeling the same way once. It is a depressing feeling, especially not being able to be completely open with your father. I remember the feeling of not saying anything or saying very little to conceal my true feelings. It can be exhausting. All is not lost, children grow and learn. They are not as fixed in place as their elders. You will be there to guide them when the time comes. It´s good to hear from you again. Isn´t there a saying that says, You can´t go home again (my keyboard has converted to Spanish). Time, seasons and learning the ttatt changes us and makes it difficult for us to go back again.
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Mickey mouse
I'm really sorry to hear that you didn't have a positive experience with your family Cedars. You just have to keep reminding yourself that they are not in control of their thinking faculties when they do and say things that hurt you.