Regarding those of you who wish you "could have done something differently" with your family members: remember how when we were Witnesses, we'd sometimes say that an unbeliever's "heart condition" could change some day? We'd get opposition from someone for years and then suddenly they would want to listen after something happened that made them think differently. Well, doesn't that apply here too? As long as they're alive, there's a chance that they will read something that triggers doubt, or something will happen that puts them off the organization. I seem to recall reading about ones who've left the org. as elderly people, so it's never too late.
It isn't my home anymore...
by cedars 55 Replies latest members private
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minimus
Cedars, what did you really expect??
What is happening is what it is. No mystery here.( Shhh.... they're in a cult)....
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Marvin Shilmer
Cedars,
You’re a fine person. Never forget that. Ever.
About your family, each one has their own life to live, and each should be afforded the space to do as they see fit, whether they afford that to you or not. Give all this some time, and try not to burn bridges unless it’s unavoidable.
As jwfacts says (and others too) you’re not the only one facing what you face, and don’t think your JW relatives aren’t going through their own emotional feelings because they are. Things will improve, and when they do you want to be a warm friend if not family.
Best regards,
Marvin Shilmer
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ziddina
Good grief... I'm so sorry to hear about the heightened brainwashing your extended family is being subjected to.
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tiki
Dear Mr & Mrs Cedars - I am sorry you had a disconcerting experience... you are obviously very sensitive and intelligent and caring individuals, and that alone is reason for extended family members to respect and love you. I also am sorry that the religion has put you at odds with people you love. It is far simpler for those of us who have little or no family involved....but I really think that sometimes you have to put your own emotional needs first and let go of situations and people that are going to drain you of your being.... however things play out, I do wish you the very best - and stick to your guns.
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Simon
I know exactly how you feel Cedars
It gets better with time and cultivating friendships outside of the family helps a lot.
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cyberjesus
That home belongs to the cult... it was never yours, you just left the cult.
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144001
Sorry to hear of this story; similar facts are too common among those exposed to this cult, including me. The effect this cult has on families is disgusting.
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insearchoftruth4
Time to find a new way home! I had just to deal with that with my inlaws and there new beautiful baby. Damm, I studied with dude 20 years ago. But no meetings for me and my wife kids, no more of that nonsense. I feel for you bro. Get on, Get happy!
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whathappened
My stomach hurts just from thinking about what you and Mrs. Cedars had to "witness" during your visit back home. We can all identify with your situation. It seems like some witnesses are just so over the top.
I did have to smile though, when I thought about how horrified those at your old hall would be if they knew you were such a proactive "apostate.". And here you are in there little Kingdom Hall.
You have a new home now, safe and peaceful, where truth and reason also reside.