Thanks Cofty, I was discussing matters with my very elderly but sharp mother the other day and she ended up saying that you need faith. That was her last bulwark. I didn't push it any further, can you imagine having to face the fact that 65 years of your life have been wasted? That when you are so old you have no where else to go? When we talk she agrees with every point individually but cannot take the implications of seeing the whole picture.
I am not going to force it any further, she is nearly 100 years old, all I can see is the tragedy of a wasted life.