Let your mother be dead to you, if she does talk to you treat her with love and respect as you would do any other human being - there doens't have to be anything special - that's the biggest thing you could do - I'm not saying that it's the turn the cheek the other way philosopy - nope That she doesn't wish that for you is very sad and shows what type of person she is.
Plus you'll never be like that with your own child. You can put all you love and energy into your daughter.