Power is all that counts-- I still remember like it was yesterday sitting in the lawyers conference room in 1989 and my wife's divorce lawyer going over their "demands"-- and she wants 1/2 of your pension. I played the poor victim to the max-- I looked her straight in the eyes--" if you are so worried about the future, that you think the end isn't coming soon, that you will need a retirement pension, then maybe you should stay married to me". She turned to her lawyer and smugly replied, " Let him have the pension, it's not that much, I won't don't need it."
-- and she was right, she didn't need it- she quietly left the KH 5 years later ( the elders started asking what she was doing dating worldly men and going to a C&W dance hall), went back to school, became a degreed registered nurse and is now a nursing director at a large nursing home-- she makes big bucks-