My advice to LGBT people who are looking for a spiritual community is that there are plenty available which will welcome them and their families with open and loving arms. There is neither rhyme nor reason to embrace the beliefs of those who not only reject their nature, but also teach self-hatred as a path to God and spiritual enlightenment. Jehovah’s Witnesses are not alone in doing this, but they exacerbate it with their shunning practices.
After I abandoned my efforts to get reinstated three years ago, I got on the Internet to seek another community which would allow me to profess and practice Christianity with no strings attached. I did find one and when I attended my first service there was received warmly and with dignity. I wasn’t “love bombed” the way Witnesses do, but instead the pastor spoke to me the way a good friend speaks to another. I interacted with other members of the congregation who treated me the same.
What particularly impressed me was the atmosphere in this particular church. Same-sex couples who attended felt free to show affection to their partners—not in a flamboyant way but the way any other couple would. There were also straight couples who attended this service and it was clear they felt comfortable and an integral part of the congregation. Both straight and same-sex couples brought their children. Neither same-sex marriage nor civil unions are currently legal here in Colorado although civil unions will gain legal status this year. Same-sex marriages will hopefully follow.
My point is that even when same-sex relationships lack legal recognition, that doesn’t mean churches have to be hostile to them. Same-sex marriages will ultimately be allowed in the United States. When that happens, I can only wonder what the WTS will tell its followers. As far as I can tell, the organization has no prepared approach for its canvassers in the nine states (including New York) where same-sex marriage is legal. It is ignoring the issue for now, but once legal status is granted to such marriages, the WTS will have to pull its head out of the sand and address this.
Quendi