Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes (page 3)

jgnat

P.S. Strong people are magnets. They attract great people and repel the bad. They don't have to worry about who will like them.

Doormats will always struggle for acceptance.

Thanks again! Yeah I'm a mommy bear lol my hubby will help I bet. he just the type that don't wanna get involved but if i explain it this way he will back me on that. i asked him and told him about his sister and he just said "she can think what she wants". meaning it's our stuff. but he doesn't say or do anything either he wants me to handle it. says it's up to me. :/ gee i don't wanna face the prego sister lol (she's over emotional as it is).

Butterflyleia85

i also try and remind myself her story she confine to me. she says she had ADD when she was in school. i think it passed into adult hood and that is what keeps me from not holding her manners to personal. yet sometimes i think about what her younger sister said, " likes to out shine ppl". the younger sister i thi k would understand but she also likes to gossip and that's why i didn't want to ask for advice from her. so thanks again for your guys help. :)

jgnat

I have a step-brother who is adult ADD. He holds down three jobs at once and is an unrestrained personality. There's folks in town like that too. He runs several local coffee shops and is a landlord about town. Doesn't know how to sit down and relax.

mrsjones5

ADD isn't an excuse for bad manners and pushy behavior. My oldest son has ADD.

Butterflyleia85

wow that's a hard worker!! her husband really does have add and has to take ritalin. he's just like her in that mishandles stuff, but his appoligetic and he never asks for stuff we just let him have stuff. ha she likes to say she's raising three kids when it comes to his add. i feel they make a great couple. ;) anywho yeah she's mature at times but sometimes she gets selfish to put it honestly even my husband says i need to be careful not to let her use me, but that's hard to decide or do if he's not giving advice or his mom is going to be on her side. i hope when facing this situation again it will be easier then what i imagined the out come will be.

Butterflyleia85

yes mrsjones5 i just now saw your comment. my phone is slow but yeah that's what i think too. it's easy to think this. and nice to know what to do now. the hard part is confronting this all. my problem... along with communicating it all.. in a good way for the best situation.

mrsjones5

Hm, the only person you should worry about being on your side is your hubby. Do not care or expect your MIL to be on your side. Anywhoo it's not really about sides anyway.

Butterflyleia85

it's not i agree it's easier for me to get my point acrossed with out going into detail. yeah i no i should just be happy about making my husband and kids happy but they care about eric and eric cares about them and if i'm part of the (mom's side) family i feel i have to prove myself and my love for them all. it's hard to explain but i want his family to love me as much as i love them. i care for them and i care what they think. so it kinda just affects everything.

mrsjones5

It's fine to want your inlaws to care for you (I have inlaws too, I may like them even love them but I'm not going to let them walk all over me) but not at the expense of making you upset and uncomfortable. It is not selfish to not want to give all of your baby's clothes to your SIL. You have your very valid reasons for not wanting to. If your not doing so will damage the "love" your inlaws have for you is that "love" all that deep?

Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes

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