ANONYMITY (Is it really possible on the Internet?) (page 2)

wasblind

Yes Terry, I'm sure nobody feels relaxed by your reassured words

that are supposed to make them feel " More relaxed "

Have a nice day Terry

wasblind

No problem Terry

You seem to suggest that if people read your post on JWN more carefully and without paranoia

they would see that you were expressin' an honest thought without an agenda and that they would feel

" More relaxed " after word

I beg to differ. This thread instills paranoia. somethin you claim

they should not have when they read your post

What you express in your thread seems anything BUT relaxin'

That's all I pointed out.

I may not be the brightest light on the tree

but it seems to be a contradiction in the words you post on this thread

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wasblind

It seems to me that you don't want folks to read this thread in a paranoid state

becuase you wanna be the one to scare them Shitless

That's all I'm sayin'

Good day Terry

' I'm sure I don't understand what you mean by "cheap psychological trick"--you'll have to explain how you come up with that one. ' ..Now you have explained that you were simply expressing your thoughts, I take that back. I thought that you were perhaps trying to get people to realise that they could be 'outed' at any time, and your line where you said ''the only thing that stands between you and peace of mind..etc'', I thought that was suggesting that they should express themselves, so I apologise for the misunderstanding..I won't be posting again for a while, get my head straight hopefully so I can talk some sense for a change.. I do still think, though, that your blowtorch illustration (along with the idea that you CANNOT post here and remain anonymous) and the end of your post is, in itself, paranoia inducing..even if I may be overreacting. I even thought about leaving and not coming back for a second! Imagine for a second that you are a frightened and paranoid Jw daring to come to this site for the first time.. And you come across this thread.. With that dramatic Block Capital ending (please reread it as you imagine this) about how you WILL be caught.. So, do you now feel like making that 1st post.... No? In life, there are people who just 'tell it like it is' because they don't give a damn how what they say might make people feel. No idea if that's you, I'm not suggesting that it is.. But IF your aim in posting threads like this is to help people, rewording it slightly might have made an excellent point (as in be careful sharing personal info via any means when you have so much to lose) less distressing and offputting for any new ones who are lurking/nervous types. None of this is having a go at you personally..

The Quiet One

Op: "If you are a lurker with an identity to hide... If you are an active Jehovah's Witness with watchful eyes sniffing you out for your curiousity... If you are a fader.... If you are in the middle of a lawsuit...... I want you to get a 4x5 notecard and Magic Marker and write these words on it and attach it to the middle of your computer screen: YOU WILL BE CAUGHT---YOU WILL BE ACCUSED---ARE YOU READY FOR WHAT COMES NEXT? Don't kid yourself. Be ready for what comes. Because...it IS coming.....and it is coming for YOU! Be ready....be prepared....BEWARE!" Hands up any new ones who want to join us today?... I'll shut up now :)

Terry

The QuietOne: IF your aim in posting threads like this is to help people, rewording it slightly might have made an excellent point (as in be careful sharing personal info via any means when you have so much to lose) less distressing and offputting for any new ones who are lurking/nervous types. None of this is having a go at you personally.. I'll shut up now :)

I am trying to help people and I don't think an anonymous poster can actually be successful at being safe. The Risk is my focus.

If you are mentally and psychologically prepared to be outed BUT decide it is worth the risk----by all means post on an Ex-JW/Apostate websites as an active JW. But, for me, that is playing with fire. (Hence my blowtorch comment.)

We're all adults here and I should probably mind my own business. But, somebody I think very highly of was dealt a very devasting blow by being outed and the impact was quite severe! I know 2 couples I've known for almost 50 years who have faded rather successfully from their respective congregations and are living a mostly free life. Both couples refuse to have any public connection with any Internet websites at all because of the risk. At first I thought they were being paranoid. But, after witnessing the sudden sneak attack aspect of several "outings" I'm now seeing things differently. I thought a very specific alarm bell should be sounded. That's what this topic is intended to arouse: a sense of total awareness.

TheQuietOne, I don't think you need to leave the board or be so hard on yourself. Remember, an Ex-JW discussion group consists largely of damaged people with deep wounds. We do tend to get sideways very quickly when a more mellow approach would serve us better.

I've recently reread some of my early encounters here on JWn (back when it was JWD) and I was biting, kicking, gouging and slamming right and left as though I were in a dogfight! With the help of Randy Watters I've tried to be more effective by chillin' out!

Rule number one is: TRY (if at all possible) to not take things personally.

Rule number two is: IF somebody decides to make things personal TRY to contact them privately on PM and hash it out.

Rule number three is: IF somebody constantly snipes at you and tries to derail your threads ignore them if possible. It isn't easy. But, there really is a lot of negativity and personal venom when there doesn't NEED to be at all.

Consider the source of conflict. Keep on keeping on! Stay with us!

wasblind

Terry.

I only pointed out in this thread what I seen as a contradiction

See, nothin' personal and no grudge. Take your own advice

Edit to add ( Response to terrys thread before he changed it to " Okaaay......." )

" Say to yourself : " Maybe this person is merely expressing an honest thought without an agenda " and see if you don't feel much more relaxed afterward_____Terry

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The Quiet One

Thanks for the advice..And I see that you do care.. I apologise for the 'IF' comment. All the best :)

ANONYMITY (Is it really possible on the Internet?)

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