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The WORST thing you can ever say to a woman is 'calm down' ......... that phrase has been used to minimize us for SOOO long.
That being said, I have to disagree with the OP. Yes, FACEBOOK is NOT safe, but if you post HERE, and don't reveal personal details, you are 99% safe.
No One is going to identify you from posting on JWN unless you reveal personal, SPECIFIC details.
Let's not foster paranoia! This is a safe site, ansd I don't want to see folks being afraid to post, when there is truly no danger.
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