Maybeso

MaybeSo

I’m very sad, upset and disappointed all at the same time. Why couldn’t I just stay away from this dam forum and live my life and blindly dedicated it to the borg. Now I know TTATT, I can’t ignore all the facts and all the stories of the great people in this forum. Hence my sign on name: maybeso. Maybe you all are right, maybe you are not, maybe some of you were treated unfairly, maybe you had a lot to do with it, maybe the witnesses are no longer chosen by God anymore, maybe God hates every time we call him Jehovah, I know I hate when my name is not pronounced correctly. Maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe……

What do I do now? Do I tell my wife about everything I’ve found out thanks to a lot of you? Do I just ignore everything and live a happy blinded life? Or, do I fade and come up with a story on why I’m fading? What to do? What to do?

Anyways, just wanted to vent a little, no need to respond J but thank you for your well-meant words and encouragement. I’m just feeling a little lost right now and I’m thinking very hard what to do next. I’ll keep you guys posted on what I do next.

Comatose

I've been there. Sorry you are in the depressed and confused stage. Hang in there. I wouldn't mention anything to the wife till you are sure.

Gojira_101

Welcome Maybeso!

I know exactly how you are feeling...all of us have been through it. I just finally took the risk and talked to a friend of mine today and she had that look of sickness we all had when we learned TTATT.

I will tell you the same thing I told her. TAKE YOUR TIME! Learn everything you can, and get your emotions and feelings in control. They will continue to go up and down for awhile. The best thing you can do is wait. You don't want to lose your family or your wife. I know it will be hard but just play along and start looking at your wife and try to figure out what will be the thing to get through the mind control of the JW's. But take your time!!!!!!!!! When you do approach your wife do it in a soft calm manner and try not attack her personally or say she is wrong...etc. Most people will immediately get defensive and the wall goes up and they stop listening. The best thing you can do is use WTBTS own literature against them, that is what I did today with my friend and she could see how WTBTS went against the bible.

You will find your way and the longer you are out it will get easier everyday.

Peace to you on your journey.

Gojira

tornapart

Tough sometimes isn't it Maybe? I'm a bit further along than you but still having the same struggles. It gets worse in some ways as time goes by, you don't want to leave your family still in but you can't bear to be in it yourself. You wish you could unlearn TTATT but then you know you're glad you did learn it. You can't go back but it's so hard knowing how to move on...

DATA-DOG

Watch the Matrix. All you are promised is the truth, nothing else. Tornapart and myself are usually on the same page. Quantum entanglement perhaps? HI SIS!! Whats your story Maybeso? It is true, you can't go back, only forward.

Just be cool and pray. You will know when it's time to act, or to keep silent. My experience with this forum is as follows:

1) Everyone wants to help you.

2) Everyone has differing beliefs.

3) The people here would give you the shirt off their back despite differing beliefs.

4) The " friends " at the KH will kick you to the curb in a heartbeat for the GB.

5) Also, accept the fact of your own ignorance in any areas of life. Leave your pride at the door when you come here. Step out of line and you will get schooled.

6) Also, no one has all the answers either. We can discuss, joke, be little bee-otches at times, but you won't get DF'd here.

7) This forum and JWstruggle and 21stcenturychristians.org may have literally saved my life.

PM me anytime.

Peace,

DD

Coffee House Girl

Hello,

I am glad you got the chance to vent, it is safe here & I hope that it helped you to get it typed out so you can read it back to yourself. I was in your shoes almost four years ago, and people are giving you good advise to do your research and work in a timetable that you are comfortable with. It is wise to not come out to your family right now...you need time to think. This is a very stressful time & you need to also make time for yourself so you don't obsess so much that you have a nervous break down. Take time to do a hobby also that lets your mind relax, make sure to exercise (that gives you needed endorphins to combat depression and gives you focus to do that needed research & soul searching).

Please continue to talk, read, and learn...you can improve your life and take control of it!!!!

Best of Luck!

CHG

breakfast of champions

Yeah, that about describes it.

Best wishes on your quest. . . .

But from my persepetive, I changed from Maybe So to Probably Not a long time ago.

Nathan Natas

Each one of us here have gone through what you are going through to a greater or lesser degree, and each has handled it, some better than others.

Maybe the next issue of The WATCHTOWER, or the next book released at a district Assembly, or the next dazzling revelation of "new light", will be just what you need to hang on.

Did you laugh at that? I hope you did.

Try to keep your sense of humor as you watch the Dubs around you enthusiastically applying themselves to something that is meaningless.

The greater the title: Brother, Pioneer, MS, Elder, Circuit Servant, District Servant, Bethelite, GB member, etc., the greater the fool who wears that title.

problemaddict

Hey man. Some of us have been there, and some of us ARE there. PM me if you like.

The way you feel today, is not the only way you will ever feel again.

Just remember that.

flipper

MAYBESO- Well, it just basically comes down to what YOU want to do. Which isn't as simple as it sounds. Things to consider involving your decision that you make may be asking questions like these to yourself :

1. How strong is your relationship with your wife ? Is she a fanatic JW who would freak out and turn you into the elders if you open up to her about your doubts ? Would she accept that you fade or will it seriously affect your marriage ? Worth considering as it's a serious issue.

2. Will you have JW relatives like JW parents who will cut you off and shun you or cut you out of the will if you decide to stop attending meetings as just inactive ? Or will your JW relatives respect your decision or deride you and bog you down with uneeded guilt ? Another consideration which may affect your decision.

3. If you stop attending meetings are you willing to develop a critical thinking mind and find out HOW the WT Society deceived you to see that they are a mind control manipulative organization so that you will have developed fully your free thinking mind and not be sucked back into it and do a " rinse, repeat " type thingie bogging your mind down again without even knowing you are allowing it to happen ?

4. Do you have any minor children ? Do you want them to be free of this controlling organization as well ? Will they listen to you- or be coerced by your JW wife and in turn she uses the WT Society and JW belief system to divide your relationship from your kids ?

So these are just some of the things I have found important to consider in my exiting the Witnesses. I have personally experienced some of these things. If you ever want to talk, PM me, I'll share my phone number, O.K. ? We are here for you my friend as a support. I know these are hard questions but if you are honest with the answers you give yourself - I feel you will discover the answers within yourself as well . Take care, hang in there, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

Maybeso

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