Moral dilemma: to tell my husband or not to tell him... (page 3)

Listener

It's working out well Julia and I'm glad for you that you have a husband with 'a strong moral compass and desire to do right'. Worth waiting for ;).

But some times in his life he's given into peer pressure. That's what I worry about but then I must be confident in him. He's very gfood at evading even outright questions if he doesn't want to answer. If he doesn't want to tell someone something, nothing they can say can get it out of him. I thought he'd be excited his friend was coming and really want to see him but he hardly reacted at all. Perhaps I'm all worried about nothing.

smiddy

Maybe try to pre-empt the situation , like prepare your hubby with what his freind is likely to say to try to encourage him back.Then tactfully point out that is a typical way they control and manipulate people to do their bidding .

As an example Catholics used to control their members with the threat of eternal damnation in hellfire if they strayed from the "truth"

Are JW`s any different in their using eternal destruction at Armageddon if any stray from the "truth"

Good luck to you J.O.

smiddy

Listener

You know Julia, men can be really simple people in some aspects. While you may think that he may not be sharing his thoughts with you, it may well be because he actually has no thoughts on the matter. But the more you share with your husband and encourage him to share his thoughts, he is likely to become more open.

A couple of years after I was with my husband, he wanted to move back to his home state of Western Australia, he has a large family here. I was used to having my husband basically all to myself and was a bit worried about him returning to a full on social life when we returned to his home town but to my surprise he only maintained a close relationship with his family and one mate. He was content with our relationship and wasn't interested in living his previous life. Maybe it is the same with your husband, he's now so content with you and being settled into married life that everything else becomes secondary to him.

If you want to bring up the subject again with him, you could put it this way - What should we do if he wants to visit us? It is such a broad general question and it instantly brings you into the equation.

Julia Orwell

You're right Listener, he probably doesn't have much thought on the matter at all. I'm an over thinker-always have been. The internal monologue never stops except for when I sleep. He on the other hand just drifts along, cool as a cucumber! He'll probably forget about his friend visiting until the friend actually contacts him, and he's usually pretty busy and I'll make sure I plan something for every weekend when we're not working. Hubby managed to give the guy who studied with him the slip when he contacted him too! I'd forgotten that til now. I think hubby is just content in his new groove.

mP

Tell your husbands friend to search for your name here.

Julia Orwell

LOL!!! I'd be outed for sure ;)

flipper

You need to tell your husband beforehand so you can both make a plan if indeed said friend tries to pull your hubby back into the JW cult. Work as a team with your hubby , especially since your hubby is doing well with his early fade. Be open and honest work together on this. Just my 2 cents.

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